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<blockquote data-quote="Littleboylost" data-source="post: 715475" data-attributes="member: 21895"><p>Your situation sounds so very familiar to my own. Our son is ours not adopted. He declares he has depression and has refused assesssment and time again. As far as I am concerned we made every mistake in the book. Trying not to make a big deal of the drug use...then frisking his room and breaking and destroying every piece of drug paraphernalia in the house. Grounding, pleading , therapists. He is now 17 would not get out of bed would not go to school. Would not get help from any source. Spiralled this last year, we. Knew other drugs had to be involved. We put the hammer down no drugs in the home or we will call the police. Caught him selling drugs from our home on Instagram. Of course it was not his it was for a friend. He ran and couch surfed for a week begged to come home. Not 3 days in and he had a big bag of week and cocaine on him. We made the call he was arrested. Now we have court dates and psychiatric refferals as well as bail meetings to attend to. He did a runner after we found him snoring oxy that he stole from me. Shocking to me they did not pull his bail bond. I now know they never will. Long story short he is off and on drugs I am sure of it. Brought drugs into the house last week. He declared it was only a gram of pot and that he threw it away. Took my car to purchase it. I was ready to throw in the towel, my husband wanted to give him one last chance. He has been behaving ever since ....but I feel like I am in the eye of the storm....waiting for the chaos to begin again. Had a job lost the job in less than 3 weeks. Got a pay cheque so has indicated he is out at a friends over night....my gut tells me that it is coming....I will have no trouble telling him to leave. I have learned to be smarter, and stronger and have leaned a lot about manipulation and gaslighting in the short while I have been on this site. Stay and you will find it a tremendous support of many brave parents. My sons out patient drug rehab couselor says they focus on harm reduction, as youth will continue to use. I said too bad zero tolerance my house my rules, he can use and find Bottom somewhere else. Having him arrested was my bottom. I truly thought it was his. Not a chance. I understand the mental illness thrown into the mix. I have a niece who is bipolar and an addict. It only makes their disease state worse. I am Canadian. And our Youth Justice Act makes it impossible to incarcerate them or divert them to rehab, he feels invincible now and refuses to anything but out patient rehab which is a Joke. Harm reduction and no drug testing. </p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/staystrong.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":staystrong:" title="staystrong :staystrong:" data-shortname=":staystrong:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Littleboylost, post: 715475, member: 21895"] Your situation sounds so very familiar to my own. Our son is ours not adopted. He declares he has depression and has refused assesssment and time again. As far as I am concerned we made every mistake in the book. Trying not to make a big deal of the drug use...then frisking his room and breaking and destroying every piece of drug paraphernalia in the house. Grounding, pleading , therapists. He is now 17 would not get out of bed would not go to school. Would not get help from any source. Spiralled this last year, we. Knew other drugs had to be involved. We put the hammer down no drugs in the home or we will call the police. Caught him selling drugs from our home on Instagram. Of course it was not his it was for a friend. He ran and couch surfed for a week begged to come home. Not 3 days in and he had a big bag of week and cocaine on him. We made the call he was arrested. Now we have court dates and psychiatric refferals as well as bail meetings to attend to. He did a runner after we found him snoring oxy that he stole from me. Shocking to me they did not pull his bail bond. I now know they never will. Long story short he is off and on drugs I am sure of it. Brought drugs into the house last week. He declared it was only a gram of pot and that he threw it away. Took my car to purchase it. I was ready to throw in the towel, my husband wanted to give him one last chance. He has been behaving ever since ....but I feel like I am in the eye of the storm....waiting for the chaos to begin again. Had a job lost the job in less than 3 weeks. Got a pay cheque so has indicated he is out at a friends over night....my gut tells me that it is coming....I will have no trouble telling him to leave. I have learned to be smarter, and stronger and have leaned a lot about manipulation and gaslighting in the short while I have been on this site. Stay and you will find it a tremendous support of many brave parents. My sons out patient drug rehab couselor says they focus on harm reduction, as youth will continue to use. I said too bad zero tolerance my house my rules, he can use and find Bottom somewhere else. Having him arrested was my bottom. I truly thought it was his. Not a chance. I understand the mental illness thrown into the mix. I have a niece who is bipolar and an addict. It only makes their disease state worse. I am Canadian. And our Youth Justice Act makes it impossible to incarcerate them or divert them to rehab, he feels invincible now and refuses to anything but out patient rehab which is a Joke. Harm reduction and no drug testing. :staystrong: [/QUOTE]
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