HI there, my son has just been diagnosed bipolar and autistic recently at state mental hospital. He is adopted from Ukriane, got him when he was 3.5 yearss and he is now 15.5 years. Has been counseling since age 6 for adhd, odd, and the other sorts of alphabets. I just am feeling so down right now. Pitty party, gotta pull my boot straps up. Also have another son, turns 16 today, also Aspie, high finctioning, sports guy, honor roll. My younger son, the one with the issues (most) he had a friend come over last week from the hospital. Long story short, after the friend left, son is high on pot the entire weekend. Wanted to do family stuff, but he was so stoned, what's the sense, and then other son went over to his friends house. My son was even so brazen to smoke the pot IN MY HOUSE in his room!! and then deny it, caught red handed. Told us he didn't have naymore when we demanded the rest. Well, for the next few days, kept smelling the wonderful order coming from his room, didn't have anymore each time. Finally, I wanted to test him to se if he could listen to directions, told him not to smoke "in" the house, outside would be doable, as long as I didn't see him. Lo and behold , the very next day, he was smoking outside not inside, which was nice. But then where did the wexcuse, there is no more go? Am I expecting too much? I guess so because the trauma specialist we are having come to the house told me that things could be alot worse. Which I know things could be alot worse, but I dont want the things that I do have. sigh........... Nobody invited us over for the 4th, we didn't go anywhere for the 4th, nobody realy wants to come over to our house. I have become so isolated it isn't funny. Other son is on Varsity basketball and football, want to go to games. Becasue young son cannot stay at home alone, needs to be dragged along and boy does he make it clear he doesnt want to be there. But both my husband and I want to be there. Varsity son has worked hard to get there and we want to see him play. I am just afraid of how all this is going to go. I don't want to lose my marriage, house, job, other son. As it is, there are no friends and little family in the picture. I find it hard to even concentrate on things, all I can think of is how to fix this kid and how to help him and nothing seems to be working. He is a good kid for the mnost part, his biggest issue is all he wants to do is drugs. He has no other things to do. I am afraid to let him go into the neighborhood for fear of what he will do. He is good about goig on his bike and coming back in 45 minutes. I just wished I could know that this will wind up on a positvie note and he is able to live on his own. My husband and I really need to get things back together, has been a rocky 3-4 years since son has been going off the deep end. I don't even know where I am going iwth this post. I am just rather sad today and feeling sorry for myself. I want to be able to do things without worrying about junior.