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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 451724" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I think it is time to at least consider pressing charges against her for the thefts against you. Then a court could force her into a rehab or she would do some time in jail which is the natural and logical consequence for her actions. Not sure what state you live in, but if it is like mine and she goes to steal from someone else to support her habit she may get shot at - and the homeowner would face NO charges/consequences except a few "attaboys" for protecting his/her home and property. Stealing is an incredibly dangerous thing and most addicts do it often. So getting consequences for it is important, esp if you can keep them from including bullets.</p><p></p><p>She is 30 and is thinking about rehab because she is sure you do not mean it and as soon as she has been gone a couple of weeks and then spins a sob story that you will again take her back.</p><p></p><p>PLEASE get yourself into narc anon and/or alanon and in to see a therapist to work on this. Drop any therapy that tries to tell you that you should take her back into your home or pay for a room or home for her. She is WAY too old to be supported by you. If she hasn't been to rehab and is willing to go, I could see paying for oNE trip to rehab but not more. Chances are high she won't stay at rehab the whole time and will relapse as soon as she gets out - andyou have to let her do that on her own, with-o you paying for her living expenses. Otherwise it is just easier to keep using than it is to go through withdrawal and face the mess she has created in her life.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 451724, member: 1233"] I think it is time to at least consider pressing charges against her for the thefts against you. Then a court could force her into a rehab or she would do some time in jail which is the natural and logical consequence for her actions. Not sure what state you live in, but if it is like mine and she goes to steal from someone else to support her habit she may get shot at - and the homeowner would face NO charges/consequences except a few "attaboys" for protecting his/her home and property. Stealing is an incredibly dangerous thing and most addicts do it often. So getting consequences for it is important, esp if you can keep them from including bullets. She is 30 and is thinking about rehab because she is sure you do not mean it and as soon as she has been gone a couple of weeks and then spins a sob story that you will again take her back. PLEASE get yourself into narc anon and/or alanon and in to see a therapist to work on this. Drop any therapy that tries to tell you that you should take her back into your home or pay for a room or home for her. She is WAY too old to be supported by you. If she hasn't been to rehab and is willing to go, I could see paying for oNE trip to rehab but not more. Chances are high she won't stay at rehab the whole time and will relapse as soon as she gets out - andyou have to let her do that on her own, with-o you paying for her living expenses. Otherwise it is just easier to keep using than it is to go through withdrawal and face the mess she has created in her life. [/QUOTE]
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