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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 192408" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>You keep that momma bear going. Remember, I said, "SOMETIMES" it is not what difficult child wanted you to find out. However, KIMNO is correct, you have to keep digging and find every detail - you can think like a difficult child's mom, the teachers are only thinking like easy child's. You need to show them at times that difficult child did what he believed he needed to do and though it may have been wrong, you don't punish, you redirect or "teach" why it was wrong, you discipline in a different way. Also, difficult children often need more than the normal, "That is not acceptable. You will not do that again." They often need to understand why it was not acceptable. They see things in a different view point and in order to help them grow and learn, we also have to see things in a different view points. We have to be creative, just like our difficult children are.</p><p> </p><p>My easy child would never lie although others thought she did at time. People need to realize that kids often are telling things as they understand it, it may not be the truth, but they do not lie - they just state their side.</p><p> </p><p>So, keep that momma bear going when needed - follow your instincts - ask the teachers for their input - then ask difficult child again. It is sad that our kids don't always tell us when they are being mistreated by teachers (not that I feel any indication that yours is but KIMNO's was and she didn't know it). When gathering info ask exactly what was said by everyone. </p><p> </p><p>Be calm when gathering info and then let momma bear loose when you need to address something that you are sure of.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 192408, member: 5096"] You keep that momma bear going. Remember, I said, "SOMETIMES" it is not what difficult child wanted you to find out. However, KIMNO is correct, you have to keep digging and find every detail - you can think like a difficult child's mom, the teachers are only thinking like easy child's. You need to show them at times that difficult child did what he believed he needed to do and though it may have been wrong, you don't punish, you redirect or "teach" why it was wrong, you discipline in a different way. Also, difficult children often need more than the normal, "That is not acceptable. You will not do that again." They often need to understand why it was not acceptable. They see things in a different view point and in order to help them grow and learn, we also have to see things in a different view points. We have to be creative, just like our difficult children are. My easy child would never lie although others thought she did at time. People need to realize that kids often are telling things as they understand it, it may not be the truth, but they do not lie - they just state their side. So, keep that momma bear going when needed - follow your instincts - ask the teachers for their input - then ask difficult child again. It is sad that our kids don't always tell us when they are being mistreated by teachers (not that I feel any indication that yours is but KIMNO's was and she didn't know it). When gathering info ask exactly what was said by everyone. Be calm when gathering info and then let momma bear loose when you need to address something that you are sure of. [/QUOTE]
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