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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 461041" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Memelisa are you Orcaaunt's Mom? If so welcome to the Board. It sounds like you have decided on a course of action that you believe is the best choice...or the only choice available. As a Grandmother who has raised a couple of boys I understand that it is difficult and am sending you a hug. by the way, one of the sayings I kept in mind that helped me alot is "never let them see you sweat". Remember the old commercial? Whether it is crying, yelling or hitting it does not work and, I believe, reaffirms in their mind that they can mimic that behavior. I know it is easy to react to terrible choices made by a teen but save your emotional outbursts for your pillow...your tears for quiet release in the shower alone. Whether it is teenage defiance or mental health issues that are triggering her bad and erratic acts she will (and has been) watch you as a role model. Many of us have lived in extremely stressful cir circumstances with out of control kids. The difficult child's feed off of parental response. Inside your head slowly count numbers, say a prayer or internally repeat "I will be calm and strong". Whatever works for you. It takes practice but it should defuse the very volatile atmosphere and allow you to set the examples you want her to follow. I'm sorry you are having such a hard time and hope that with a consistent calm course of action you will soon have a more peaceful home. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 461041, member: 35"] Memelisa are you Orcaaunt's Mom? If so welcome to the Board. It sounds like you have decided on a course of action that you believe is the best choice...or the only choice available. As a Grandmother who has raised a couple of boys I understand that it is difficult and am sending you a hug. by the way, one of the sayings I kept in mind that helped me alot is "never let them see you sweat". Remember the old commercial? Whether it is crying, yelling or hitting it does not work and, I believe, reaffirms in their mind that they can mimic that behavior. I know it is easy to react to terrible choices made by a teen but save your emotional outbursts for your pillow...your tears for quiet release in the shower alone. Whether it is teenage defiance or mental health issues that are triggering her bad and erratic acts she will (and has been) watch you as a role model. Many of us have lived in extremely stressful cir circumstances with out of control kids. The difficult child's feed off of parental response. Inside your head slowly count numbers, say a prayer or internally repeat "I will be calm and strong". Whatever works for you. It takes practice but it should defuse the very volatile atmosphere and allow you to set the examples you want her to follow. I'm sorry you are having such a hard time and hope that with a consistent calm course of action you will soon have a more peaceful home. DDD [/QUOTE]
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