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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 746385" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Gosh. This hit me hard. Because what in the world do we do with the love? It becomes dangerous to love, doesn't it, to show love...because it might be construed as willingness to do for, which in our case, turns into being consumed by a garbage disposal. What an impossible situation. Where our basic instinct to love has to be contained and guarded against because it leads us to be harmed.</p><p>And this is tragic, too. The thought that your demonstration of love could harm her; by showing up, and reflecting to the judge the reality that she has burnt all of her bridges. This is SO sad.</p><p></p><p>The potential blessing in this, is that eventually with all roads cut off, she can and will turn to herself. How much does our help, help them? It only offers the mirage of one more road away from the reality of her life.</p><p></p><p>I have not heard from my son about meeting tomorrow. I don't think he will follow through. I did text him to remind him, he's got to let me know. That either way is fine. Whether or not I am protecting myself with that, I am not sure. But I give it 25 percent. Sad.</p><p></p><p>Addendum: I bought the ticket to meet my son tomorrow (3rd try). <em>He is going to take the same method of transportation as last time (via hell and gone) which led to him being 2 hours late, and missing me entirely. </em></p><p></p><p>No detailed itinerary provided by me, with departure and arrival times, totally spelled out, impresses him.</p><p></p><p>Not that it will take him half the time. Not that it will cost half the price. He insists upon taking the SAME route to nowhere, AGAIN.</p><p></p><p>I texted. <em>You decide. Please give yourself ample time. </em>Sigh.</p><p></p><p>Actually. It makes me sad. He said:<em> I know how to get there if I go first to XXX. </em>So. I get it. This is his way of making sure he will get there. It may not have worked last time, to get him there on time, but at least he got there 2 hours late. Perhaps he will give himself more time, this time. Maybe he will get there. I hope so.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 746385, member: 18958"] Gosh. This hit me hard. Because what in the world do we do with the love? It becomes dangerous to love, doesn't it, to show love...because it might be construed as willingness to do for, which in our case, turns into being consumed by a garbage disposal. What an impossible situation. Where our basic instinct to love has to be contained and guarded against because it leads us to be harmed. And this is tragic, too. The thought that your demonstration of love could harm her; by showing up, and reflecting to the judge the reality that she has burnt all of her bridges. This is SO sad. The potential blessing in this, is that eventually with all roads cut off, she can and will turn to herself. How much does our help, help them? It only offers the mirage of one more road away from the reality of her life. I have not heard from my son about meeting tomorrow. I don't think he will follow through. I did text him to remind him, he's got to let me know. That either way is fine. Whether or not I am protecting myself with that, I am not sure. But I give it 25 percent. Sad. Addendum: I bought the ticket to meet my son tomorrow (3rd try). [I]He is going to take the same method of transportation as last time (via hell and gone) which led to him being 2 hours late, and missing me entirely. [/I] No detailed itinerary provided by me, with departure and arrival times, totally spelled out, impresses him. Not that it will take him half the time. Not that it will cost half the price. He insists upon taking the SAME route to nowhere, AGAIN. I texted. [I]You decide. Please give yourself ample time. [/I]Sigh. Actually. It makes me sad. He said:[I] I know how to get there if I go first to XXX. [/I]So. I get it. This is his way of making sure he will get there. It may not have worked last time, to get him there on time, but at least he got there 2 hours late. Perhaps he will give himself more time, this time. Maybe he will get there. I hope so. [/QUOTE]
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