It turned out that we didn't have to make a decision . . .

Discussion in 'Parent Emeritus' started by Kathy813, Oct 6, 2011.

  1. Kathy813

    Kathy813 Well-Known Member Staff Member

    We are not going to visit difficult child this Tuesday. I teach online classes and had forgotten that our face-to-face final exams are on Tuesday and I have to be there.

    I told difficult child when she called tonight and her first reaction was "but I am out of deodorant."

    She brought up the issue of coming home after the 28 days are up again. I told her that I didn't want to give her false hope so she needs to work on transition housing with her counselor. She said that the she and the counselor had come up with the idea of a contract. I burst out laughing. difficult child would never think twice when it came to breaking a contract. been there done that.

    I told her again that she needs to work on a place to go after she leaves the treatment center. She didn't get mad and said that she had been looking at the halfway housing but asked that we keep an "open mind" until we talk to the counselor. At that point, the time ran out so I didn't have to answer.

    I am going to call the counselor tomorrow and make sure that she understands the situation.

    One positive thing was that difficult child made the comment that she didn't like the person that she was when she was using and didn't want to go back to being that person again. That was the first time that I had ever heard her admit that she had a substance abuse problem.

    So we have a week of tranquility ahead.
  2. buddy

    buddy New Member

    Deep sigh of relief.:sigh:
  3. Nancy

    Nancy Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Whew! Enjoy the week.

  4. Hound dog

    Hound dog Nana's are Beautiful

    Enjoy the week.

  5. keista

    keista New Member

    Enjoy the week and your daughter's small epiphany. Every baby step counts.
  6. DDD

    DDD Well-Known Member

    You need and deserve a break. Awesome that you will have time to exhale, my friend. I'm keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers. Nice that she said something appropriate remember that grains of Morton's are needed. Hugs. DDD
  7. CrazyinVA

    CrazyinVA Well-Known Member Staff Member

    I love when things like this happen, it's like Fate taking the decision out of our hands. Enjoy the peace.
  8. JJJ

    JJJ Active Member

    Enjoy the week. I don't think counselors ever get how very hard it is on the parents.
  9. witzend

    witzend Well-Known Member

    Kathy - what a really nice post! Life isn't always easy, but your difficult child (and you) sounds as if she is moving forward. I'd call that face to face test very "serendipitous". It gives you both a good chance to meditate on what the important things in your lives are.