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It's Been So Long - But Nothing is Better
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<blockquote data-quote="Transparent" data-source="post: 454714" data-attributes="member: 6498"><p>I'm going to try to answer y'alls questions without quoting everyone. Forgive me if I get scattered.</p><p></p><p>difficult child doesn't have a computer. He's had one in the past and couldn't keep from infecting it over and over with malware. It wasn't something we went out and bought for him, his gramma had upgraded her home easy child and gave this one to him. After cleaning it up and repairing it numerous times, I finally told him that when it crashed, it was done and he wouldn't be getting another one. That was over 2 years ago. I always monitored his activities on the easy child and the majority of the malware and bugs he picked up were from websites with game cheats on them. That's another issue he has too - he always has to be 1st, always has to win - no matter what. The iPod is a dead issue now. He complained the other night because I expressed my disappointment that he would use my account to purchase apps and then have no remorse. He said "I don't want to have to hear about this forever. I simply made a mistake and I deserve to have it back". I stated that this would be the last he'd hear about it because he was never getting the iPod back. I told him that the next time he had an iPod would be when he was old enough to get a job and buy his own. The iPod now lives in my car, sync'd with my car stereo with MY music on it. It's mine. Period.</p><p></p><p>He does have a cell phone. Both of our sons do. I'd rather he not have a phone at all but husband feels more comfortable with him having one. The boys walk to the bus stop every day and then home again and you can't see the stop from our house. We live in a quiet neighborhood but I think husband just likes that added security that difficult child could get in touch with us if something happened. The boys take the same bus first thing in the morning but being in different schools, one drops off at one school and then takes a different bus to another school, so, they're not always together. I had a block put on his phone a while back because he was buying subscriptions to different things related to Disney, Nickelodeon, etc. Ah the patterns... </p><p></p><p>difficult child's mother is deceased and this is huge. She was a prescription drug addict and suffered from depression and also bipolar disorder. Her mother is also a depressed bipolar and from what I've heard, her father was a violent, mean person. husband has no mental issues that I'm aware of. He's never been on any medications or seen a psychiatrist for anything. The fear that husband has is that he doesn't know for sure how long she was a prescription addict. She was getting medications from her regular doctor for "migraines" but she was also filling out credit card applications in her mother's name and racked up $40,000 in over seas narcotics purchases. All of which were unknown until after she passed away and husband found empty box after empty box buried in the back of their closet. He doesn't know if she was taking things while she was pregnant. She didn't have a job, so, she was always at home to intercept the mail - no one knew. </p><p></p><p>We thought we found an outlet for difficult child at one point because he'd gotten interested in origami and was doing well with it. Then came the knife threats and we had to confiscate his scissors. He was told then that he could only do origami that didn't require him to have to cut the paper. So, what does he do? He makes guns with the paper and aims them at DS. Take the paper guns and then he makes throwing stars. Come on!! Do you know how many times I've wanted to take everything but the mattress out of his room? And that's being lenient..</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Transparent, post: 454714, member: 6498"] I'm going to try to answer y'alls questions without quoting everyone. Forgive me if I get scattered. difficult child doesn't have a computer. He's had one in the past and couldn't keep from infecting it over and over with malware. It wasn't something we went out and bought for him, his gramma had upgraded her home easy child and gave this one to him. After cleaning it up and repairing it numerous times, I finally told him that when it crashed, it was done and he wouldn't be getting another one. That was over 2 years ago. I always monitored his activities on the easy child and the majority of the malware and bugs he picked up were from websites with game cheats on them. That's another issue he has too - he always has to be 1st, always has to win - no matter what. The iPod is a dead issue now. He complained the other night because I expressed my disappointment that he would use my account to purchase apps and then have no remorse. He said "I don't want to have to hear about this forever. I simply made a mistake and I deserve to have it back". I stated that this would be the last he'd hear about it because he was never getting the iPod back. I told him that the next time he had an iPod would be when he was old enough to get a job and buy his own. The iPod now lives in my car, sync'd with my car stereo with MY music on it. It's mine. Period. He does have a cell phone. Both of our sons do. I'd rather he not have a phone at all but husband feels more comfortable with him having one. The boys walk to the bus stop every day and then home again and you can't see the stop from our house. We live in a quiet neighborhood but I think husband just likes that added security that difficult child could get in touch with us if something happened. The boys take the same bus first thing in the morning but being in different schools, one drops off at one school and then takes a different bus to another school, so, they're not always together. I had a block put on his phone a while back because he was buying subscriptions to different things related to Disney, Nickelodeon, etc. Ah the patterns... difficult child's mother is deceased and this is huge. She was a prescription drug addict and suffered from depression and also bipolar disorder. Her mother is also a depressed bipolar and from what I've heard, her father was a violent, mean person. husband has no mental issues that I'm aware of. He's never been on any medications or seen a psychiatrist for anything. The fear that husband has is that he doesn't know for sure how long she was a prescription addict. She was getting medications from her regular doctor for "migraines" but she was also filling out credit card applications in her mother's name and racked up $40,000 in over seas narcotics purchases. All of which were unknown until after she passed away and husband found empty box after empty box buried in the back of their closet. He doesn't know if she was taking things while she was pregnant. She didn't have a job, so, she was always at home to intercept the mail - no one knew. We thought we found an outlet for difficult child at one point because he'd gotten interested in origami and was doing well with it. Then came the knife threats and we had to confiscate his scissors. He was told then that he could only do origami that didn't require him to have to cut the paper. So, what does he do? He makes guns with the paper and aims them at DS. Take the paper guns and then he makes throwing stars. Come on!! Do you know how many times I've wanted to take everything but the mattress out of his room? And that's being lenient.. [/QUOTE]
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