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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 567001" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>Thanks everyone. It really feels good to be done with his school issues. And even better that it worked out so well in the end. I knew he was smart from the beginning but at that time that didn't help much with school. But somewhere down the road there was a point where the learning and knowing the stuff started to over-ride jumping the hoops and that was a point there it started to work out for difficult child.</p><p></p><p>Mattsmom: I was at the ceremony even though difficult child wasn't. It was nice to see other kids get their diplomas and other proud parents there. It was also somewhat eye-opening for me. I always think difficult child childish and immature for his age, being behind his age group. And in some ways he certainly is. But there are ways he isn't and on the contrary during the last two years he did grow out from being a school kid and he really would had been out of place in that ceremony. It's odd but somehow he has developed very uneven 'maturity profile' along the way. There are areas he is behind and lacking skills, but there are also areas he is more mature than his peers. Living independently, working and spending time mostly with adults, making his ends meet, having to meet adult expectations in some areas of life, all that have changed him a lot during this time.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>His unexpected leap to perfectionism regarding his finals certainly upped the anxiety, but other than that I don't believe his school work has bothered him overall. And certainly not his sport. On the contrary his mental coach (still loving the guy) has recommended that difficult child would think about taking a college class(es) for spring (same kind I'm taking. They are normal university level classes, but open enrolment. You can't get a degree doing only them but you can add them to your degree studies when you are enrolled to university as an actual degree student.) He is all about balance and he thinks difficult child needs more to do and less time to think about his sport outside of practise. After all there are only so many movies and tv shows you can watch to kill time. Too much free time just keeps him too tangled to his sport performance. Taking a class or two or coming up with other hobby would also give him more social opportunities. difficult child lives in university town and he could either go on with his interest in math or take some business classes. No one has ever been hurt by knowing how to read annual accounts and other financial reports even if they are not interested about studying business per se. Chemistry would unfortunately likely be too inflexible for difficult child in this time. There would be no way he would be able to attend all classes and labs due to his schedule. These classes would be very pressure free for difficult child. They are fairly cheap (tuitions tend to be between 50 to 100 dollars a class) and if he ever enrols to university he could either add those classes to his degree or not to, totally his choice. So dropping them or having a bad grade wouldn't matter at all. As you probably gathered, I do like the idea <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p><p></p><p>I have to say I was little surprised how many had taken time and send him a card, many with very nice thoughts. I guess I tend to get caught up on how annoying and obnoxious difficult child can be. There is an other side in him too and that makes some people care. I guess part of it is this certain vulnerability he has. Even though he tries to hide it, it shines through and makes some people want to kick him and push him down and others to protect him. And luckily (at least lucky for my faith for humanity) those wanting to protect and help him do outnumber those wanting to bully him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 567001, member: 14557"] Thanks everyone. It really feels good to be done with his school issues. And even better that it worked out so well in the end. I knew he was smart from the beginning but at that time that didn't help much with school. But somewhere down the road there was a point where the learning and knowing the stuff started to over-ride jumping the hoops and that was a point there it started to work out for difficult child. Mattsmom: I was at the ceremony even though difficult child wasn't. It was nice to see other kids get their diplomas and other proud parents there. It was also somewhat eye-opening for me. I always think difficult child childish and immature for his age, being behind his age group. And in some ways he certainly is. But there are ways he isn't and on the contrary during the last two years he did grow out from being a school kid and he really would had been out of place in that ceremony. It's odd but somehow he has developed very uneven 'maturity profile' along the way. There are areas he is behind and lacking skills, but there are also areas he is more mature than his peers. Living independently, working and spending time mostly with adults, making his ends meet, having to meet adult expectations in some areas of life, all that have changed him a lot during this time. His unexpected leap to perfectionism regarding his finals certainly upped the anxiety, but other than that I don't believe his school work has bothered him overall. And certainly not his sport. On the contrary his mental coach (still loving the guy) has recommended that difficult child would think about taking a college class(es) for spring (same kind I'm taking. They are normal university level classes, but open enrolment. You can't get a degree doing only them but you can add them to your degree studies when you are enrolled to university as an actual degree student.) He is all about balance and he thinks difficult child needs more to do and less time to think about his sport outside of practise. After all there are only so many movies and tv shows you can watch to kill time. Too much free time just keeps him too tangled to his sport performance. Taking a class or two or coming up with other hobby would also give him more social opportunities. difficult child lives in university town and he could either go on with his interest in math or take some business classes. No one has ever been hurt by knowing how to read annual accounts and other financial reports even if they are not interested about studying business per se. Chemistry would unfortunately likely be too inflexible for difficult child in this time. There would be no way he would be able to attend all classes and labs due to his schedule. These classes would be very pressure free for difficult child. They are fairly cheap (tuitions tend to be between 50 to 100 dollars a class) and if he ever enrols to university he could either add those classes to his degree or not to, totally his choice. So dropping them or having a bad grade wouldn't matter at all. As you probably gathered, I do like the idea :winking: I have to say I was little surprised how many had taken time and send him a card, many with very nice thoughts. I guess I tend to get caught up on how annoying and obnoxious difficult child can be. There is an other side in him too and that makes some people care. I guess part of it is this certain vulnerability he has. Even though he tries to hide it, it shines through and makes some people want to kick him and push him down and others to protect him. And luckily (at least lucky for my faith for humanity) those wanting to protect and help him do outnumber those wanting to bully him. [/QUOTE]
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