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<blockquote data-quote="Ephchap" data-source="post: 147955" data-attributes="member: 27"><p>I'm going to ignore that part, but I know you know we were all shaking our head reading that sentence.</p><p></p><p>Yes, unfortunately it sounds like wife is still under the dellusion that if she loves him enough and wants him to get better enough, he will.</p><p></p><p>If he's not working, he's not going to school, he's still out getting drunk and/or high, and she still wants to pay for attorneys, etc. and she hasnt' gotten it by now, I'm not sure she ever will. It's so sad because she must really think she can "save him from himself" by just loving him enough. I wish it were that easy.</p><p></p><p>It sounds like you already realize how this is all going to go down - that wife is going to allow difficult child back into the house whether he completes the program or not, and will not push for a sober house. It more than likely will come to you moving out. Perhaps at that point, when you truly aren't there (and not just living in the basement, but really and truly out of the picture) to help bail difficult child out over and over, she will realize that she can't do it for difficult child - that only HE can do it. </p><p></p><p>Sending you strength and supportive hugs, Mikey. This is not going to be easy, but I know you already know that. Thinking about it and actually doing it though are miles apart. I do think you've finally reached the "doing" point. </p><p></p><p>Hugs,</p><p>Deb</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ephchap, post: 147955, member: 27"] I'm going to ignore that part, but I know you know we were all shaking our head reading that sentence. Yes, unfortunately it sounds like wife is still under the dellusion that if she loves him enough and wants him to get better enough, he will. If he's not working, he's not going to school, he's still out getting drunk and/or high, and she still wants to pay for attorneys, etc. and she hasnt' gotten it by now, I'm not sure she ever will. It's so sad because she must really think she can "save him from himself" by just loving him enough. I wish it were that easy. It sounds like you already realize how this is all going to go down - that wife is going to allow difficult child back into the house whether he completes the program or not, and will not push for a sober house. It more than likely will come to you moving out. Perhaps at that point, when you truly aren't there (and not just living in the basement, but really and truly out of the picture) to help bail difficult child out over and over, she will realize that she can't do it for difficult child - that only HE can do it. Sending you strength and supportive hugs, Mikey. This is not going to be easy, but I know you already know that. Thinking about it and actually doing it though are miles apart. I do think you've finally reached the "doing" point. Hugs, Deb [/QUOTE]
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