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<blockquote data-quote="KFld" data-source="post: 35084" data-attributes="member: 2442"><p>You are absolutley right that you have a choice of who is allowed in your home. Good for you! and no I don't think you mentioned he was on house arrest. Is that a worse punishment for him or you??? So he's on house arrest, being drug tested, and doing drugs in his own bedroom. Doesn't sound to me like he much cares about getting into more trouble right now. These kids just don't get it and that is a tough age. When my difficult child was around 14/15 he got into his first trouble with the juvenile system for shotting a paintball gun in the street with his friend and a neighbor called the police. We knew he was smoking pot and he was put on probation so we decided to clue the court in about the pot and they had the p.o. drug testing him. We didn't allow certain friends in our house and tried to keep him away from the ones we felt were bad influences. This just caused him to lie about where he was going and I think he had a few negative drug tests, but that didn't last. The problem was the p.o. liked him and didn't want to turn him in for the positive drug tests because he didn't want to see him end up in juvenile detention. He felt he was a good kid and that was not a place for him and wouldn't do him any good, so he kept letting him slip by???? Maybe if he hadn't let him slip by and something had been done to stop the pot smoking, he wouldn't have ended up a heroin addict!! It's a very very hard age and I don't think they even realize what they are doing to themselves,or believe what can happen to them if they don't follow the rules, until they mature a little more. My son just turned 20 last month and he seems to be, knock on wood, getting it. He has been involved in the court system for years, but never ended up in jail. He is now off probation and 6 1/2 months clean. Hopefully your son will get it long before he turns 20. Don't let the court system allow him to fall through the cracks. If he's getting positive drug tests, ask them to get him into some kind of drug program if he isn't in one already. Try and get the court to work with you, not against him.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="KFld, post: 35084, member: 2442"] You are absolutley right that you have a choice of who is allowed in your home. Good for you! and no I don't think you mentioned he was on house arrest. Is that a worse punishment for him or you??? So he's on house arrest, being drug tested, and doing drugs in his own bedroom. Doesn't sound to me like he much cares about getting into more trouble right now. These kids just don't get it and that is a tough age. When my difficult child was around 14/15 he got into his first trouble with the juvenile system for shotting a paintball gun in the street with his friend and a neighbor called the police. We knew he was smoking pot and he was put on probation so we decided to clue the court in about the pot and they had the p.o. drug testing him. We didn't allow certain friends in our house and tried to keep him away from the ones we felt were bad influences. This just caused him to lie about where he was going and I think he had a few negative drug tests, but that didn't last. The problem was the p.o. liked him and didn't want to turn him in for the positive drug tests because he didn't want to see him end up in juvenile detention. He felt he was a good kid and that was not a place for him and wouldn't do him any good, so he kept letting him slip by???? Maybe if he hadn't let him slip by and something had been done to stop the pot smoking, he wouldn't have ended up a heroin addict!! It's a very very hard age and I don't think they even realize what they are doing to themselves,or believe what can happen to them if they don't follow the rules, until they mature a little more. My son just turned 20 last month and he seems to be, knock on wood, getting it. He has been involved in the court system for years, but never ended up in jail. He is now off probation and 6 1/2 months clean. Hopefully your son will get it long before he turns 20. Don't let the court system allow him to fall through the cracks. If he's getting positive drug tests, ask them to get him into some kind of drug program if he isn't in one already. Try and get the court to work with you, not against him. [/QUOTE]
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