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<blockquote data-quote="SRL" data-source="post: 172646" data-attributes="member: 701"><p>Push for as much evaluation as you can get-both privately and through public sources. To some degree, getting help on the behavioral issues when there's no clue as to what is going on in the neurological sense is sorta like having a doctor treat a patient without doing a medical exam. </p><p> </p><p>Having said that, there are often things we can do to adjust our lives and our interactions with our child that can help. We push The Explosive Child for that reason. I think examining if tension in the home could be contributing--not isolated--factor in revving him up isn't a bad thing. Keep a journal and you may be able to start seeing some patterns. The one thing that you don't want to happen is for a therapist to start blaming everything on parents. Also, be cautioned that you can get so wrapped up in the behavioral aspects that it stalls the search for answers.</p><p> </p><p>One of the hardest transitions for families to make is the transition from doing normal family things to start having to make adjustments in schedules, activities, routines due to difficult child. Not only does this go for the parent, but it does hold true for the siblings as well because there indeed are times when they will be ignored, get less attention, not get to do something, not get to go somewhere, etc. That is life for sibs of a child with special needs and it's a tough balancing act. At our house we make concessions where we can but also try to make ways around barriers. For instance, on the everyday home front I don't get too out of chores. from difficult child so I don't push the others because it's one area that I don't want to highlight the inequity. But on the other hand, difficult child was too anxious to take a short family trip that would have involved flying and missing school so I stayed home and took him camping with our church group while my husband took the other kids on the trip. I grew up in a home with a brother whose needs were different and while I wasn't always real keen on it while it was happening, I think it added to the person I am.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SRL, post: 172646, member: 701"] Push for as much evaluation as you can get-both privately and through public sources. To some degree, getting help on the behavioral issues when there's no clue as to what is going on in the neurological sense is sorta like having a doctor treat a patient without doing a medical exam. Having said that, there are often things we can do to adjust our lives and our interactions with our child that can help. We push The Explosive Child for that reason. I think examining if tension in the home could be contributing--not isolated--factor in revving him up isn't a bad thing. Keep a journal and you may be able to start seeing some patterns. The one thing that you don't want to happen is for a therapist to start blaming everything on parents. Also, be cautioned that you can get so wrapped up in the behavioral aspects that it stalls the search for answers. One of the hardest transitions for families to make is the transition from doing normal family things to start having to make adjustments in schedules, activities, routines due to difficult child. Not only does this go for the parent, but it does hold true for the siblings as well because there indeed are times when they will be ignored, get less attention, not get to do something, not get to go somewhere, etc. That is life for sibs of a child with special needs and it's a tough balancing act. At our house we make concessions where we can but also try to make ways around barriers. For instance, on the everyday home front I don't get too out of chores. from difficult child so I don't push the others because it's one area that I don't want to highlight the inequity. But on the other hand, difficult child was too anxious to take a short family trip that would have involved flying and missing school so I stayed home and took him camping with our church group while my husband took the other kids on the trip. I grew up in a home with a brother whose needs were different and while I wasn't always real keen on it while it was happening, I think it added to the person I am. [/QUOTE]
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