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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 526777" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>Nancy...</p><p>I used to deal with chronic pain - the physical/neurological kind of pain.</p><p>And I learned an interesting lesson... and it seems to apply to emotional pain as well.</p><p></p><p>Once pain exists, it is very difficult to make it go away. You can often keep it from getting worse, maybe take the edge off. But pain, often, does not "go away".</p><p></p><p>What I was taught to do was "turn down the volume".</p><p>I could acknowledge the pain, knew what the source was, and then... learned to tell my brain to "put it on mute". Not that it would fully mute. It doesn't. Not ever.</p><p>But... once I figure out how to push it to the background, it didn't intrude on my life so much.</p><p></p><p>And then, when GFGland hit us... I had to find ways to do the same.</p><p>The situation isn't so intense now, but... turning down the volume helps preserve sanity.</p><p>I can get all tied up in knots, wake up in the night and... it's either be awake for hours, or turn down the volume. For me, I "park it"... write a wee note that literally says "worry about X in the morning". And then I leave the worry on the nightstand and go back to sleep. </p><p></p><p>There's other ways that work, too... you'll have to find what works for you. But... rather than trying to NOT worry, see if there are ways to MANAGE the worry, so it doesn't run/ruin your life.</p><p></p><p>{{hugs}}</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 526777, member: 11791"] Nancy... I used to deal with chronic pain - the physical/neurological kind of pain. And I learned an interesting lesson... and it seems to apply to emotional pain as well. Once pain exists, it is very difficult to make it go away. You can often keep it from getting worse, maybe take the edge off. But pain, often, does not "go away". What I was taught to do was "turn down the volume". I could acknowledge the pain, knew what the source was, and then... learned to tell my brain to "put it on mute". Not that it would fully mute. It doesn't. Not ever. But... once I figure out how to push it to the background, it didn't intrude on my life so much. And then, when GFGland hit us... I had to find ways to do the same. The situation isn't so intense now, but... turning down the volume helps preserve sanity. I can get all tied up in knots, wake up in the night and... it's either be awake for hours, or turn down the volume. For me, I "park it"... write a wee note that literally says "worry about X in the morning". And then I leave the worry on the nightstand and go back to sleep. There's other ways that work, too... you'll have to find what works for you. But... rather than trying to NOT worry, see if there are ways to MANAGE the worry, so it doesn't run/ruin your life. {{hugs}} [/QUOTE]
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