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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 404358" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>I'm out of my element with the complex issues your facing. The only thing I can think to add based on some experience is this. Sometimes those of us who have dealt or are dealing with drug or alcohol use have to sort through the true meaning of "enabling". Lordy it is such a fine line between loving and protecting and enabling. Due to her youth it makes it an even finer line. If there is a valid comparison (and I'm not saying there is) then it would appear that you have provided all the support you could access to date with little reason to be optimistic. </p><p> </p><p>I'm sure you are sick of thinking <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/sigh.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":sigh:" title="sigh :sigh:" data-shortname=":sigh:" /> but perhaps if you compare her disorders/behaviors to that of an addict it may help.</p><p>Many of us have traveled that road for years choosing different options...some at great personal cost...like you. But at some point hypothetically you have an addict and you've paid for multiple programs, taken them for counseling, watched them like a hawk...and they still use. Then....some people say "ok, you are using but you may not go away from home to use because something terrible may happen" which results in your home being a drug house and the family being absorbed by sick behaviors. Or...you say (obviously not valid with your child) "ok, I've had it let's pack your things and get you to H out of here". Or...you say "look you know I love you, I've been as supportive as I can be, <strong>but </strong>we can not continue down this road". Then find the energy to find a psychiatrist who can grasp the complexities, read through your notes and records and suggest where she needs to go by herself to face her issues.</p><p> </p><p>Living with hourly stress can actually put your life in jeopardy. The accumulation of stress is no small thing. Like everyone I continue to hope and pray that your difficult child gets well soon but I'm actually more concerned about you. Dysfunction is very contageous. I hope you can get yourself off the daily roller coaster. Supportive hugs coming your way. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 404358, member: 35"] I'm out of my element with the complex issues your facing. The only thing I can think to add based on some experience is this. Sometimes those of us who have dealt or are dealing with drug or alcohol use have to sort through the true meaning of "enabling". Lordy it is such a fine line between loving and protecting and enabling. Due to her youth it makes it an even finer line. If there is a valid comparison (and I'm not saying there is) then it would appear that you have provided all the support you could access to date with little reason to be optimistic. I'm sure you are sick of thinking :sigh: but perhaps if you compare her disorders/behaviors to that of an addict it may help. Many of us have traveled that road for years choosing different options...some at great personal cost...like you. But at some point hypothetically you have an addict and you've paid for multiple programs, taken them for counseling, watched them like a hawk...and they still use. Then....some people say "ok, you are using but you may not go away from home to use because something terrible may happen" which results in your home being a drug house and the family being absorbed by sick behaviors. Or...you say (obviously not valid with your child) "ok, I've had it let's pack your things and get you to H out of here". Or...you say "look you know I love you, I've been as supportive as I can be, [B]but [/B]we can not continue down this road". Then find the energy to find a psychiatrist who can grasp the complexities, read through your notes and records and suggest where she needs to go by herself to face her issues. Living with hourly stress can actually put your life in jeopardy. The accumulation of stress is no small thing. Like everyone I continue to hope and pray that your difficult child gets well soon but I'm actually more concerned about you. Dysfunction is very contageous. I hope you can get yourself off the daily roller coaster. Supportive hugs coming your way. DDD [/QUOTE]
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