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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 590272" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Our structure is simply our schedule. It happens to be pretty full. I put in the times he gets to pick what he wants to do. It has grown over the years to be less effort.....because it worked. He makes more reasonable choices. We still do it though......</p><p></p><p>so the"schedule" is just structured by activities you already do.....not a rigid do the same thing every day kind of thing (though that helps some, and it happens to be that our weekly schedule is pretty routine. Due to his activities and interests)</p><p></p><p>I put it in writing for the day. That's what helps him. The predictability for the day.</p><p></p><p>The times where there is nothing scheduled, you can put a green star (for example) that </p><p>means, j's choice, that's when he can pick from the fun list you made up. If free choice is being taught, great......no list, just make sure that happens after a rest time and when he is full, not right after school.</p><p></p><p>A blue star might mean pick from the calm activity list. Books, Music, coloring, Legos.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Add ic said, you don't really need to change, just put out into"schedule form" so he knows what comes next and his mind doesn't go to free thinking...i want a toy now! "well, is that on the schedule?" Then youre off the hook, (hmmm, let's see what's next?) It becomes routine and reduces power struggles (yes, there may be a "break-in" time where he fusses, and behavior may get ugly as with any new program.....so build it up as fun and he helps create the choices and colors that are ok, etc.)</p><p></p><p>Put in moments that he can pick the toy, the treat, etc...again, not at those times you know he is not spent.</p><p></p><p>If a change happens during the day, even if because you just want to.....have a highlighter. That color means change. Then put the new thing in. That is often used to teach flexibility for kids. The highlight color means.....now we use these coping skills......</p><p></p><p>Of course, some times you are working on anxiety or frustration management skills, q does that in therapies now but when little he and i had practice sessions.....so when you hit a snag you can pull out tools like holding things to squish, blowing out candles on a fake cake (makes them deep breathe) meditation for kids, rolling a ball on his back, using a battery vibrator on his shoulders, whatever you know helps....</p><p></p><p>It really just becomes part of life and doesn't feel any more rigid than if you didn't write it down (use little symbols to help non readersof course)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 590272, member: 12886"] Our structure is simply our schedule. It happens to be pretty full. I put in the times he gets to pick what he wants to do. It has grown over the years to be less effort.....because it worked. He makes more reasonable choices. We still do it though...... so the"schedule" is just structured by activities you already do.....not a rigid do the same thing every day kind of thing (though that helps some, and it happens to be that our weekly schedule is pretty routine. Due to his activities and interests) I put it in writing for the day. That's what helps him. The predictability for the day. The times where there is nothing scheduled, you can put a green star (for example) that means, j's choice, that's when he can pick from the fun list you made up. If free choice is being taught, great......no list, just make sure that happens after a rest time and when he is full, not right after school. A blue star might mean pick from the calm activity list. Books, Music, coloring, Legos. Add ic said, you don't really need to change, just put out into"schedule form" so he knows what comes next and his mind doesn't go to free thinking...i want a toy now! "well, is that on the schedule?" Then youre off the hook, (hmmm, let's see what's next?) It becomes routine and reduces power struggles (yes, there may be a "break-in" time where he fusses, and behavior may get ugly as with any new program.....so build it up as fun and he helps create the choices and colors that are ok, etc.) Put in moments that he can pick the toy, the treat, etc...again, not at those times you know he is not spent. If a change happens during the day, even if because you just want to.....have a highlighter. That color means change. Then put the new thing in. That is often used to teach flexibility for kids. The highlight color means.....now we use these coping skills...... Of course, some times you are working on anxiety or frustration management skills, q does that in therapies now but when little he and i had practice sessions.....so when you hit a snag you can pull out tools like holding things to squish, blowing out candles on a fake cake (makes them deep breathe) meditation for kids, rolling a ball on his back, using a battery vibrator on his shoulders, whatever you know helps.... It really just becomes part of life and doesn't feel any more rigid than if you didn't write it down (use little symbols to help non readersof course) [/QUOTE]
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