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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 590287" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Malika, maybe I can make you feel better. Yes, our kids like structure, but the world out there won't stay structured to their likes.</p><p>Sonic has Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD), as you know, which is a step beyond ADHD. I am the most disorganized person on earth. Yet he has thrived in every way. He has gone from being 10X worse than J. has ever been to being a total easy child who can take care of himself in most ways and has a NEAT STRUCTURED ROOM. In fact, he is t he one who likes to clean t he house. </p><p></p><p>It is absolutely not necessary for all difficult children to have strict structure. It can and probably does help at home so they know what to expect, but in the big picture, life won't structure for them. I am not saying it probably would have been better for ALL my kids if I was the type of parent who could structure time well, but I wasn't and in the big picture of life it did not make a ny difference. </p><p></p><p>Now all kids are different, but if you can't or don't like structure, I don't think it is the end of J. if you are easy going with him that way. If it mattered that much, then parents of difficult children who are unstructured would all have negative endings, and they don't. Nor does structure guarantee a good outcome. I think my difficult child's (even 35, who is the biggest one) turned out much better than anyone expected. Maybe they learned that the world won't cater to their schedules? I have no idea. I think you are good with J. </p><p></p><p>So I'm the odd man out here. I don't think structure is the be all and end all to how our kids turn out. Sue me <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 590287, member: 1550"] Malika, maybe I can make you feel better. Yes, our kids like structure, but the world out there won't stay structured to their likes. Sonic has Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD), as you know, which is a step beyond ADHD. I am the most disorganized person on earth. Yet he has thrived in every way. He has gone from being 10X worse than J. has ever been to being a total easy child who can take care of himself in most ways and has a NEAT STRUCTURED ROOM. In fact, he is t he one who likes to clean t he house. It is absolutely not necessary for all difficult children to have strict structure. It can and probably does help at home so they know what to expect, but in the big picture, life won't structure for them. I am not saying it probably would have been better for ALL my kids if I was the type of parent who could structure time well, but I wasn't and in the big picture of life it did not make a ny difference. Now all kids are different, but if you can't or don't like structure, I don't think it is the end of J. if you are easy going with him that way. If it mattered that much, then parents of difficult children who are unstructured would all have negative endings, and they don't. Nor does structure guarantee a good outcome. I think my difficult child's (even 35, who is the biggest one) turned out much better than anyone expected. Maybe they learned that the world won't cater to their schedules? I have no idea. I think you are good with J. So I'm the odd man out here. I don't think structure is the be all and end all to how our kids turn out. Sue me :) [/QUOTE]
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