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<blockquote data-quote="dstc_99" data-source="post: 638925" data-attributes="member: 15473"><p>Personally when I started this post it was more of an introspective thing. I was remembering the times the kick in the butt was needed and how reading about taking a strong stance makes me feel stronger. More whole. I was also remembering the times when I thought you all were crazy for thinking things would work out. </p><p></p><p>On the other hand I also remember the gut feeling of anger when someone posted something I found rude or hurtful. I remember feeling shame when I failed to push through and get the result suggested. I also remember backing wayyyyyyy off the board until I felt strong enough to come back. </p><p></p><p>The point is not that people shouldn't say what they think or that they should send banal replies. The point is that sometimes we forget we are trying to support people and give advice. Sometimes we forget people needing support need are fragile and maybe we should take a second and think before we type. Even when they need a kick in the pants! </p><p></p><p>I don't think anyone should avoid giving advice and I sure hope no one hits ignore over one comment. That was never the point of this. It was also not the intent to pick on one person which is pretty obvious considering the different points of view expressed. Not everyone feels the way I do so obviously every bodies advice is valued even if it is valued by different people for different reasons. </p><p></p><p>MWM please don't stop posting to new people. You have more advice and experience than I will ever have. You are certainly more informed. I was trying mostly to remind myself not to be too harsh on new posters but also keep in mind that the harsh words are sometimes necessary.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dstc_99, post: 638925, member: 15473"] Personally when I started this post it was more of an introspective thing. I was remembering the times the kick in the butt was needed and how reading about taking a strong stance makes me feel stronger. More whole. I was also remembering the times when I thought you all were crazy for thinking things would work out. On the other hand I also remember the gut feeling of anger when someone posted something I found rude or hurtful. I remember feeling shame when I failed to push through and get the result suggested. I also remember backing wayyyyyyy off the board until I felt strong enough to come back. The point is not that people shouldn't say what they think or that they should send banal replies. The point is that sometimes we forget we are trying to support people and give advice. Sometimes we forget people needing support need are fragile and maybe we should take a second and think before we type. Even when they need a kick in the pants! I don't think anyone should avoid giving advice and I sure hope no one hits ignore over one comment. That was never the point of this. It was also not the intent to pick on one person which is pretty obvious considering the different points of view expressed. Not everyone feels the way I do so obviously every bodies advice is valued even if it is valued by different people for different reasons. MWM please don't stop posting to new people. You have more advice and experience than I will ever have. You are certainly more informed. I was trying mostly to remind myself not to be too harsh on new posters but also keep in mind that the harsh words are sometimes necessary. [/QUOTE]
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