It is simply amazing. I'm just sitting here shaking my head utterly dumbfounded. 1. Katie manages to get hud by them not accepting M. 2. Katie manages to get her rent/deposit paid by someone. (who knows who) 3. If katie wants.....M has been basically "removed" from her life via circumstance that gives her a free ride to do so with little or no confrontation as it's not "her fault" but hud's that he can't live with them or visit them. 4. Due to number 3, katie will get child support paid for the kids because it is required of separated parents when parent with the kids is using welfare. Again not "katie's fault"....so no confrontation probably with M over having to support his kids. So katie just gets the cash. Which also doesn't count as income for hud apartments so her rent will not go up due to it. 5. The school and the shelter are going out of their way to get her as much household items as possible before she moves. And the one that kicked my temper into high gear the moment husband laid it on me as my foot hit the bottom step, before that first cup of coffee, before the first cigarette, still swollen struggling to breathe due to water retention, cold turkey from bed: 6. Alex's disability has been approved adding at least nearly 700.00 per month to her income. Unbelievable. Alex's fate is now sealed except for any help he gets at school because there is no way katie is going to do anything that might help his condition to improve thereby jeopardizing her monthly check. Evan's fate is now also sealed as she now has no motivation whatsoever to help him catch up to his peers, in fact the opposite is true. The worse he is, the higher the chance of him also getting disability. Why doesn't the govt just hand katie a lamented card that declares she never is required to work a day in her life for anything? Then at least anyone who comes into contact with her will know straight up what they're up against. Normal people spend years and endure endless doctor appoints, evaluations, and tests to get disability. All katie has to do is abuse and neglect her kids......let the school do a simple evaluation because she's too lazy to take them to a doctor.......and file for disability......and poof! she's got a monthly check. Pardon me while I empty my stomach. Gags me, really it does. I've since let go of the anger. Does no good.......and Nichole let me talk through it.....and together we managed to scrape up some "good" reasons for life to be handed to katie. The anger had nothing to do with whether or not Alex deserves disability because he does......and it will help him in the future as well if he needs it. It's the "let's just hand the girl yet another reason not to function as an adult" thing that sticks in my craw. Because between child support (and he'll pay at least 50 bucks per kid, is what he paid last time) and disability........and if you count in the dollar value of the food stamps........the girl is going to be living more than comfortably. Other than rent, she has no bills. Her cell phone is even free. The "good" thing Nichole and I managed to drag up about this............Is that for once katie has the means to be financially independent of M with no worries of even having to work for a living. So maybe she'll finally kick him to the curb. I mean life certainly could NOT have set it up for her to do so any better than it has done. Of course what we believe will happen? M starts hassling katie about hud not accepting him, that disability check looks big and fat to them.....she either gets evicted or skips out on the hud apartment, rents some dive.......and the scenerio of a decade ago happens all over again. And the topper to all this??? Alex's special award ceremony for Disabled Student of the Year is thursday. The whole family was going to turn out for him to show him how proud we are of him for working so hard. Katie told husband this morning that tickets to the ceremony are 5 bucks each. Guess what? I can't afford the 10 bucks to go.........seems I guess I'm just not difficult child enough. blah And then??? Katie asks husband if we would please drive her 40 miles to go sign the disability paperwork so she can get her check. FRS won't drive her, it's not a doctor appoint or work related. Us? I had easy child call me because she spotted gas 20 cents a gallon cheaper at a nearby station and got word that it's going up in town to 3.90 by the end of the weekend.........so I dug into my stash of babysitting cash I've been hoarding to hopefully get it to reproduce and gave him the money to fill both our tanks. Anywhere within walking distance.......we walk. Walking distance = 5 miles (until we're in better shape) But she needs us to drive her 40 miles one way to sign a paper. omg Blows my mind. Once katie is situated in the apartment with the two incomes and food stamps......she will at that point be in better shape than husband and I money wise.