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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 418056" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Janet that is because you did your job so darn well! lol </p><p></p><p>To me it would make sense to determine who gets a monthly check by the severity of the disability, especially for a child. I've known many many people with disabled kids that it was just not feesable for the mom to go out and work because the child required to high a level of care. Giving a check to such a family who are financially having trouble is a good thing. But while Alex is clearly disabled, he doesn't require a level of care that would make it impossible or even hard for katie to go out and work. He would be able to manage a day care setting if workers were education on his level of functioning. Here he's already functioning at a much higher level than he was in mo.......he has an awesome teacher whom I plan to give a gift of thanks for all her hard work at the end of the year. An amazing caring woman. But it would make sense to make the financial aspect relate to level of care the child requires.</p><p></p><p>Currently, every time I talk to katie on the phone.........which has been an awful lot over the past couple of days.......I'm stunned cps has not been called in. Her true (old) colors of parenting are shining through and the kids are evidently basically running wild at the shelter. She has little or no control over their behavior. While on the phone she will scream at the top of her lungs at them. God forbid put the phone down and go stop the behavior. They, of course, don't listen to her. Just about every time I've talked to her Evan has latched on to the leg of the male director and refused to let go........with his mother screaming at the top of her lungs. If he's not latched on to the director, he's running around terrorizing and tormenting other residents or trying to destroy things. Alex and Kayla are almost as bad but at least if someone else speaks up they will usually stop. </p><p></p><p>Amazes me. The shelters I stayed in, that pattern got cps called in and children were removed. The children in those shelters were far from angels, but the shelters expected and demanded they behave and follow rules......if the parent couldn't get them to comply they were either evicted or cps was called in, which ever best suited the situation. But in every case I saw cps was called in.</p><p></p><p>Katie isn't cursing at them or even threatening them with punishment.......just constantly screaming at them to stop. Reminds me of like a 12 yr old trying to watch little kids for the first time. In private there is the cursing/threats. And the kids display the typical <strong>we know mom and dad won't move until they can't stand what we're doing anymore</strong>.......and push and push the issue until katie and M get physical. A pattern I've come to recognize in physically abused kids. </p><p></p><p>The screaming though is annoying at best. I told her at least twice to put down the phone and go <strong>do</strong> something about it. omg I'm still shaking my head over the director letting Evan latch on to him and not doing anything. The man hides in his office to avoid the kid........so yesterday Evan started sneaking into his office to do it. ugh</p><p></p><p>I wouldn't want to be her neighbor at the apartments. </p><p></p><p>Today we're taking her to sign the paperwork. Still major irks me, but husband already told her we would. And it looks like Evan will be along for the ride. He'd better behave or he'll find out quickly Nana doesn't tolerate such nonsense. I have a feeling it's going to be a long miserable trip. ugh</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 418056, member: 84"] Janet that is because you did your job so darn well! lol To me it would make sense to determine who gets a monthly check by the severity of the disability, especially for a child. I've known many many people with disabled kids that it was just not feesable for the mom to go out and work because the child required to high a level of care. Giving a check to such a family who are financially having trouble is a good thing. But while Alex is clearly disabled, he doesn't require a level of care that would make it impossible or even hard for katie to go out and work. He would be able to manage a day care setting if workers were education on his level of functioning. Here he's already functioning at a much higher level than he was in mo.......he has an awesome teacher whom I plan to give a gift of thanks for all her hard work at the end of the year. An amazing caring woman. But it would make sense to make the financial aspect relate to level of care the child requires. Currently, every time I talk to katie on the phone.........which has been an awful lot over the past couple of days.......I'm stunned cps has not been called in. Her true (old) colors of parenting are shining through and the kids are evidently basically running wild at the shelter. She has little or no control over their behavior. While on the phone she will scream at the top of her lungs at them. God forbid put the phone down and go stop the behavior. They, of course, don't listen to her. Just about every time I've talked to her Evan has latched on to the leg of the male director and refused to let go........with his mother screaming at the top of her lungs. If he's not latched on to the director, he's running around terrorizing and tormenting other residents or trying to destroy things. Alex and Kayla are almost as bad but at least if someone else speaks up they will usually stop. Amazes me. The shelters I stayed in, that pattern got cps called in and children were removed. The children in those shelters were far from angels, but the shelters expected and demanded they behave and follow rules......if the parent couldn't get them to comply they were either evicted or cps was called in, which ever best suited the situation. But in every case I saw cps was called in. Katie isn't cursing at them or even threatening them with punishment.......just constantly screaming at them to stop. Reminds me of like a 12 yr old trying to watch little kids for the first time. In private there is the cursing/threats. And the kids display the typical [B]we know mom and dad won't move until they can't stand what we're doing anymore[/B].......and push and push the issue until katie and M get physical. A pattern I've come to recognize in physically abused kids. The screaming though is annoying at best. I told her at least twice to put down the phone and go [B]do[/B] something about it. omg I'm still shaking my head over the director letting Evan latch on to him and not doing anything. The man hides in his office to avoid the kid........so yesterday Evan started sneaking into his office to do it. ugh I wouldn't want to be her neighbor at the apartments. Today we're taking her to sign the paperwork. Still major irks me, but husband already told her we would. And it looks like Evan will be along for the ride. He'd better behave or he'll find out quickly Nana doesn't tolerate such nonsense. I have a feeling it's going to be a long miserable trip. ugh [/QUOTE]
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