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<blockquote data-quote="nlj" data-source="post: 646088" data-attributes="member: 17650"><p>Hi Kattriss</p><p></p><p>Just responding to your post which made me happy because I've found a kindred spirit and cross because it reminded me of my own crummy feelings. My husband is a professor and goes away on 'jollies' regularly. I know exactly how you feel. It's complicated more with us because I am step-mother to his 10 year old and, much as I love her, it's not right that he goes all over the world 'working' while I'm stuck here looking after <em>his </em>daughter. We have regular fall-outs over this, particularly as when we were dating he used to say about how this was a perk of his job and how academics always arrange conferences in great places because the main point of them is the chance to go sightseeing after the 'work' is done. Now he tries to say that it's not a fun trip and that he has to go to work. I'm pretty cynical as you can imagine. The only way I deal with it is that I now go away on my own on a trip whenever he announces that he's off somewhere. I arrange to go away for a few days when he gets back and he's left to deal with arranging childcare for his daughter or taking her to work with him. Sorry I can't tell you that everything's great, because it does cause grief in our marriage, but if you want to carry on then I would suggest that you do something for yourself and let him deal with it. You have to have a balance in your marriage because this sort of thing can eat away at your relationship. I know. As I told my husband last September "you swanning off to Greece and me staying here stuck looking after your daughter isn't a marriage - it's just a load of <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/censored2.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":censored2:" title="censored2 :censored2:" data-shortname=":censored2:" /> - so we either get some balance in our marriage or I'm off." I last disappeared for 4 days in October and he took his daughter in to work with him. He's off to Croatia for some 'hard work' (yeah right), in April and I'm going to book a 3 day trip away for myself in May. Feel free to rant to me as much as you like. x</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nlj, post: 646088, member: 17650"] Hi Kattriss Just responding to your post which made me happy because I've found a kindred spirit and cross because it reminded me of my own crummy feelings. My husband is a professor and goes away on 'jollies' regularly. I know exactly how you feel. It's complicated more with us because I am step-mother to his 10 year old and, much as I love her, it's not right that he goes all over the world 'working' while I'm stuck here looking after [I]his [/I]daughter. We have regular fall-outs over this, particularly as when we were dating he used to say about how this was a perk of his job and how academics always arrange conferences in great places because the main point of them is the chance to go sightseeing after the 'work' is done. Now he tries to say that it's not a fun trip and that he has to go to work. I'm pretty cynical as you can imagine. The only way I deal with it is that I now go away on my own on a trip whenever he announces that he's off somewhere. I arrange to go away for a few days when he gets back and he's left to deal with arranging childcare for his daughter or taking her to work with him. Sorry I can't tell you that everything's great, because it does cause grief in our marriage, but if you want to carry on then I would suggest that you do something for yourself and let him deal with it. You have to have a balance in your marriage because this sort of thing can eat away at your relationship. I know. As I told my husband last September "you swanning off to Greece and me staying here stuck looking after your daughter isn't a marriage - it's just a load of :censored2: - so we either get some balance in our marriage or I'm off." I last disappeared for 4 days in October and he took his daughter in to work with him. He's off to Croatia for some 'hard work' (yeah right), in April and I'm going to book a 3 day trip away for myself in May. Feel free to rant to me as much as you like. x [/QUOTE]
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