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<blockquote data-quote="Jena" data-source="post: 410380" data-attributes="member: 4514"><p>hi guys.......</p><p> </p><p>husband showed up home a little later that night. claimed he was working. yea ok. i dont' think he wanted to come home was the thing.... </p><p> </p><p>so next morning he said he wasn't going than said he was going back and forth irritable etc. he was...... so i said well i'm going if you arent'. he saId you are? i said yup ill double down on therapy that's fine. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p> </p><p>so he came. well needless to say it was rough bad and zero help from guy in there. i answered therapists questions, husband answered therapits questions. therapist said a few things like guys this is a marathon not a sprint. you have to respect eachother and respect eachothers seperateness as people, automony. ok sounds all good.</p><p> </p><p>at end of it and husband got loud a few times had some strong complaints about me. he said i think the two of you have to decide if you want to work this out. he said i think first we have to ascertain what's "good" about you two. if we can't do that maybe you two are just wrong for eachother afterall. he said thats' first and foremost. so he asked if we were ready to set up another appointment. husband said no not yet i have to think.</p><p> </p><p>so we went home i posted about difficult child's birthday.it was a rough long day. yet at night before my parents came i kinda just broke down a bit. he saw me and said listen i love you yet this isnt' working its' too hard. difficult child is well overwhelming to no end, we have zero time together for our relationship between difficult child and than my work schedule and you needing sleep, he said your obsessing is so hard all the time. he said i go to work everyday and work hard float the boat and for what? i have no life with you. than you give me all these rules pertaining to "how" to talk to my ex. than i screw up and you get mad. round and round we go.</p><p> </p><p>he said i have a problem with her I don't know i keep answering to her when she corners me. maybe i just want to get out of it, maybe it's the control for 18 years living with her i have no idea. </p><p> </p><p>long story short he pulled out the store credit card last night and booked play tickets to mary poppins it was my favorite thing as a kid for sunday for him and i. he said i guess its' really unhealthy we never go anywhere together ontop of the mess we're in, and we just spend time together at midnite which is killing you. so let's make a schedule ihate that it's boring yet you do look really bad. so we're trying a schedule out what nights ill stay up what' nights i'll sleep. we're actually goingto the play on sunday and dinner alone he's taking the entire day off. that's if i'm well enough to go. hoping i am.</p><p> </p><p>we'll see how it goes.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Jena, post: 410380, member: 4514"] hi guys....... husband showed up home a little later that night. claimed he was working. yea ok. i dont' think he wanted to come home was the thing.... so next morning he said he wasn't going than said he was going back and forth irritable etc. he was...... so i said well i'm going if you arent'. he saId you are? i said yup ill double down on therapy that's fine. :) so he came. well needless to say it was rough bad and zero help from guy in there. i answered therapists questions, husband answered therapits questions. therapist said a few things like guys this is a marathon not a sprint. you have to respect eachother and respect eachothers seperateness as people, automony. ok sounds all good. at end of it and husband got loud a few times had some strong complaints about me. he said i think the two of you have to decide if you want to work this out. he said i think first we have to ascertain what's "good" about you two. if we can't do that maybe you two are just wrong for eachother afterall. he said thats' first and foremost. so he asked if we were ready to set up another appointment. husband said no not yet i have to think. so we went home i posted about difficult child's birthday.it was a rough long day. yet at night before my parents came i kinda just broke down a bit. he saw me and said listen i love you yet this isnt' working its' too hard. difficult child is well overwhelming to no end, we have zero time together for our relationship between difficult child and than my work schedule and you needing sleep, he said your obsessing is so hard all the time. he said i go to work everyday and work hard float the boat and for what? i have no life with you. than you give me all these rules pertaining to "how" to talk to my ex. than i screw up and you get mad. round and round we go. he said i have a problem with her I don't know i keep answering to her when she corners me. maybe i just want to get out of it, maybe it's the control for 18 years living with her i have no idea. long story short he pulled out the store credit card last night and booked play tickets to mary poppins it was my favorite thing as a kid for sunday for him and i. he said i guess its' really unhealthy we never go anywhere together ontop of the mess we're in, and we just spend time together at midnite which is killing you. so let's make a schedule ihate that it's boring yet you do look really bad. so we're trying a schedule out what nights ill stay up what' nights i'll sleep. we're actually goingto the play on sunday and dinner alone he's taking the entire day off. that's if i'm well enough to go. hoping i am. we'll see how it goes. [/QUOTE]
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