"The parenting section of the bookstore is overwhelming—it's "a giant, candy-colored monument to our collective panic," as writer Jennifer Senior puts it. Why is parenthood filled with so much anxiety? Because the goal of modern, middle-class parents—to raise happy children—is so elusive. In this honest talk, she offers some kinder and more achievable aims." At the height of my daughter's gfgness I would not have listed my child's happiness as a parenting goal. I was more concerned that she keep herself safe and quit making self destructive choices.