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<blockquote data-quote="pepperidge" data-source="post: 398083" data-attributes="member: 2322"><p>Hi</p><p></p><p>You could be writing about my youngest I fear in a couple of years. My youngest is on the fetal alcohol spectrum. what you describe is totally consistent with Fetal Alcohol Effects (FAE). totally. And like you said, concerta helps with somethings but not the real impulsivity and risk taking. I see that your son is adopted --was alcohol possibly a factor with his birthmother? Note that my son is cognitively pretty normal. But the impulsiveness and the general social developmental delay.... We are still trying to find a medication that deals with that--no luck. Also what you describe about the lack of boundaries (e.g. stealing)is very typical of Fetal Alcohol Effects (FAE).</p><p></p><p>I think it is important to get an idea about Fetal Alcohol Effects (FAE). One thing you will need to evaluate is whether punishment etc can do any good with impulisiveness. I do believe that these kids are really lagging in their brain development (I have read that perhaps in their 30s there is some exec functioning maturity.</p><p></p><p>So we are in the same position as you--how to keep a teenage boy with no sense safe and out of harm's way. It is so difficult when all their friends get these privileges. They just cannot handle them. I am really questioning how I can keep my child safe, and what kind of structured program they will need in their late teens to do that. And where is it????!!! I find this child so much more difficult and worrying than my older one whom I see great signs of progress. He will still need structure etc but I think we have found some medications to deal with the mental illness aspect and are working on self esteem etc.</p><p></p><p>Also what we find with youngest is that the only kids that will ultimately accept him are exactly the kind that we don't want him hanging with. </p><p></p><p>We are struggling now with school not to punish him for his impulsiveness behavior--not accept what he does but think that by imposing some consequence (supsension) that my son will change his behavior. I am all for paying for damage etc taking away privileges he is not developmentally ready for (license) but some types of punishment thinking that it will change his behavior when he doesn't have a lot of control over the impulsivity is like pusnishing a kid with dyslexia for not being able to read.</p><p></p><p>I am totally depressed and scared about the future for this child--all the more depressing because he has the potential to be a very caring upbeat kid--but is being worn down by the constant negativity he faces each day. It is so hard when they appear to be functioning on a normal level but in reality don't have the mental brakes.</p><p></p><p>HELP!</p><p></p><p>In sympathy with you,</p><p>P.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="pepperidge, post: 398083, member: 2322"] Hi You could be writing about my youngest I fear in a couple of years. My youngest is on the fetal alcohol spectrum. what you describe is totally consistent with Fetal Alcohol Effects (FAE). totally. And like you said, concerta helps with somethings but not the real impulsivity and risk taking. I see that your son is adopted --was alcohol possibly a factor with his birthmother? Note that my son is cognitively pretty normal. But the impulsiveness and the general social developmental delay.... We are still trying to find a medication that deals with that--no luck. Also what you describe about the lack of boundaries (e.g. stealing)is very typical of Fetal Alcohol Effects (FAE). I think it is important to get an idea about Fetal Alcohol Effects (FAE). One thing you will need to evaluate is whether punishment etc can do any good with impulisiveness. I do believe that these kids are really lagging in their brain development (I have read that perhaps in their 30s there is some exec functioning maturity. So we are in the same position as you--how to keep a teenage boy with no sense safe and out of harm's way. It is so difficult when all their friends get these privileges. They just cannot handle them. I am really questioning how I can keep my child safe, and what kind of structured program they will need in their late teens to do that. And where is it????!!! I find this child so much more difficult and worrying than my older one whom I see great signs of progress. He will still need structure etc but I think we have found some medications to deal with the mental illness aspect and are working on self esteem etc. Also what we find with youngest is that the only kids that will ultimately accept him are exactly the kind that we don't want him hanging with. We are struggling now with school not to punish him for his impulsiveness behavior--not accept what he does but think that by imposing some consequence (supsension) that my son will change his behavior. I am all for paying for damage etc taking away privileges he is not developmentally ready for (license) but some types of punishment thinking that it will change his behavior when he doesn't have a lot of control over the impulsivity is like pusnishing a kid with dyslexia for not being able to read. I am totally depressed and scared about the future for this child--all the more depressing because he has the potential to be a very caring upbeat kid--but is being worn down by the constant negativity he faces each day. It is so hard when they appear to be functioning on a normal level but in reality don't have the mental brakes. HELP! In sympathy with you, P. [/QUOTE]
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