hearts and roses
Mind Reader
So, easy child and difficult child have to give me $35/week 'rent'...it is just to help with the monthly oil bill or whatever needs help. I keep it out of my account and in cash in a hiding spot so when I need it, it's there. in my opinion, it is not a lot of money, but it helps. I believe they think it is a lot of money. I mean, where else can they live with food and hot showers, private rooms, free parking, heat, hot water, and electricity, as well as live in kenneling, etc., for a mere $140/month?? Nowhere. Maybe the YWCA.
Anyway, the other day I went with easy child to the store to pick up a few things. She was buying some items to make Christmas mixes in a jar as gifts but forgot her wallet (how convenient). So I put it in with my stuff and paid (it was about $20 worth).
The next day she gave my the $70 for two weeks and then took back $10 so she could get a pizza (I had just gone food shopping but she claimed there was nothing in the house!). So, she took back the $10, no biggie.
Then the very next day when I called home, she was just finishing up her christmas jar gifts and mentioned that she had to go buy more flour and sugar and that now I owed her $5 for those because she didn't use them all and was going to put them in my pantry. WTH?? She USED all of my flour and sugar and I bought all that other carp she needed to make the stupid jars - which she is giving to every one but us I might add. I just sort of did this sputtery thing because to be honest, I was at a loss for words. I finally was able to say, "Hmmm, if memory serves, I paid for all the other stuff and you still owe me money, soooo....." and responded with, "Okay, mom, whatever" and we hung up. I was just appalled by her ballsyness! Still am.
Yesterday I went food shopping, yet again, and bought juice. When I got home, she was asleep and when she got up, she drank half the carton and then came to tell me that there is nothing in the house she likes and that she wishes I would buy a better variety of juice because all we have is OJ and cider. Hmph. I turned to her and very politely suggested that she buy her own juice. "In fact," I said, "how about you take that $30 you OWE me and go to the store after work tomorrow and buy a few juices and other items that you & difficult child would like? Since you don't like anything I buy, you can do that for me. Thanks!" She made a snarky face but shut right up.
I just want to say that I am not a picky, tit-for-tat person with money. In fact, I hate that kind of pettiness. in my opinion, if any ONE of us sees we need something or that something needs getting done, we should just do it without expecting anything in return. I have, or at least I thought I had, instilled this in my girls. But apparently, easy child has this money pettiness thing going and it drives me insane. difficult child is the opposite - she has no money pettiness at all. In fact, I don't even have to ask her for her money - I find it on the counter for me each and every Friday without fail. With easy child I have to ask for DAYS...at least 3/4 times before she coughs it up and then I get an attitude from her. It's maddening. It reminds me so much of my exmil - she was always like that with her money. She once loaned exh and I $300 for our gas to heat the house and she charged us 3% interest. Now that I know better, apparently she'd been burned by exh so it makes sense, but in a way, at the time, I just thought WTH? But I digress....
I won't even get into the puppy. If I hear another remark from H about that cute little puppy being mine now, I will kill him. Hahah. She's so cute and I can't hate her, she's just a love. But I didn't want another dog to care for and train. Ugh - see, I can't even go there right now. I will just add that the sweet little thing sleeps with H and me and we're not happy about that so much. Most nights I don't care, but once in a while, it would be nice to have a private moment with H - alone.
Okay, vent over. I have to talk about stuff with difficult child, but I will post that in the PE another time.
Anyway, the other day I went with easy child to the store to pick up a few things. She was buying some items to make Christmas mixes in a jar as gifts but forgot her wallet (how convenient). So I put it in with my stuff and paid (it was about $20 worth).
The next day she gave my the $70 for two weeks and then took back $10 so she could get a pizza (I had just gone food shopping but she claimed there was nothing in the house!). So, she took back the $10, no biggie.
Then the very next day when I called home, she was just finishing up her christmas jar gifts and mentioned that she had to go buy more flour and sugar and that now I owed her $5 for those because she didn't use them all and was going to put them in my pantry. WTH?? She USED all of my flour and sugar and I bought all that other carp she needed to make the stupid jars - which she is giving to every one but us I might add. I just sort of did this sputtery thing because to be honest, I was at a loss for words. I finally was able to say, "Hmmm, if memory serves, I paid for all the other stuff and you still owe me money, soooo....." and responded with, "Okay, mom, whatever" and we hung up. I was just appalled by her ballsyness! Still am.
Yesterday I went food shopping, yet again, and bought juice. When I got home, she was asleep and when she got up, she drank half the carton and then came to tell me that there is nothing in the house she likes and that she wishes I would buy a better variety of juice because all we have is OJ and cider. Hmph. I turned to her and very politely suggested that she buy her own juice. "In fact," I said, "how about you take that $30 you OWE me and go to the store after work tomorrow and buy a few juices and other items that you & difficult child would like? Since you don't like anything I buy, you can do that for me. Thanks!" She made a snarky face but shut right up.
I just want to say that I am not a picky, tit-for-tat person with money. In fact, I hate that kind of pettiness. in my opinion, if any ONE of us sees we need something or that something needs getting done, we should just do it without expecting anything in return. I have, or at least I thought I had, instilled this in my girls. But apparently, easy child has this money pettiness thing going and it drives me insane. difficult child is the opposite - she has no money pettiness at all. In fact, I don't even have to ask her for her money - I find it on the counter for me each and every Friday without fail. With easy child I have to ask for DAYS...at least 3/4 times before she coughs it up and then I get an attitude from her. It's maddening. It reminds me so much of my exmil - she was always like that with her money. She once loaned exh and I $300 for our gas to heat the house and she charged us 3% interest. Now that I know better, apparently she'd been burned by exh so it makes sense, but in a way, at the time, I just thought WTH? But I digress....
I won't even get into the puppy. If I hear another remark from H about that cute little puppy being mine now, I will kill him. Hahah. She's so cute and I can't hate her, she's just a love. But I didn't want another dog to care for and train. Ugh - see, I can't even go there right now. I will just add that the sweet little thing sleeps with H and me and we're not happy about that so much. Most nights I don't care, but once in a while, it would be nice to have a private moment with H - alone.
Okay, vent over. I have to talk about stuff with difficult child, but I will post that in the PE another time.