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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 112388" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>You spent a lot of time with him, you invested a considerable part of your life with him, so it's understandable you would feel some empathy for him. Just don't let it trick you into making mistakes with him.</p><p></p><p>Yes, he may well have benefited from being removed from such a violent home. But others have been in the same environment and not turned out to be violent.</p><p></p><p>We are complex creatures. Many factors go into our makeup. At some level, choice comes into it. When you are an adult, you do have a lot more personal choice in how you live your life. Once he realised that certain aspects of his behaviour were unacceptable by modern social standards, he had a choice to get help.</p><p></p><p>Do hold on to that thought as well. Guard yourself, do not let your empathy turn into guilt at any stage.</p><p></p><p>Also be aware - there are difficult children on this site who are turning out to be violent, difficult despite the best efforts of parents to get them evaluated and supported. Sometimes despite all you can do, you still can't bridge the gap.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 112388, member: 1991"] You spent a lot of time with him, you invested a considerable part of your life with him, so it's understandable you would feel some empathy for him. Just don't let it trick you into making mistakes with him. Yes, he may well have benefited from being removed from such a violent home. But others have been in the same environment and not turned out to be violent. We are complex creatures. Many factors go into our makeup. At some level, choice comes into it. When you are an adult, you do have a lot more personal choice in how you live your life. Once he realised that certain aspects of his behaviour were unacceptable by modern social standards, he had a choice to get help. Do hold on to that thought as well. Guard yourself, do not let your empathy turn into guilt at any stage. Also be aware - there are difficult children on this site who are turning out to be violent, difficult despite the best efforts of parents to get them evaluated and supported. Sometimes despite all you can do, you still can't bridge the gap. Marg [/QUOTE]
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