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<blockquote data-quote="Lulu" data-source="post: 122914" data-attributes="member: 4493"><p>SRL and Julie, thanks for the support. I finally called husband at work and asked how drop-off went. He said N was quiet, but fine. The teacher told me at pick-up that he had been fine at school, no problems. </p><p></p><p>husband and I had "the discussion" after the kids were in bed. His comment to me: I get so frustrated when N won't do what I say and then we're late and it just gets worse. I empathized and said that in those cases, I'd just stay calm, because losing it will just make N worse. He says, "But he still won't do what I ask." I said I'd just carry him to the car quietly and calmly with-o his coat, buckle him in, and tuck his coat around him. husband is concerned that N has all the control as we get ready for school. Obviously, husband is not ready to consider ceding some of that, or the illusion of that. He agreed that what I suggested was the best we could do for now.</p><p></p><p>Last night, N and I went over what he would need to do to make this morning better, and this morning I was coaching him pretty constantly (husband maintains we should be able to tell him what to do and he should do it), and he DID get ready in time to play a computer game for 5 minutes. And lo and behold, when Daddy said, "time to go," N got up and walked to the door, no balking! We both praised him. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>Some days are good days. Thanks again, ladies.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lulu, post: 122914, member: 4493"] SRL and Julie, thanks for the support. I finally called husband at work and asked how drop-off went. He said N was quiet, but fine. The teacher told me at pick-up that he had been fine at school, no problems. husband and I had "the discussion" after the kids were in bed. His comment to me: I get so frustrated when N won't do what I say and then we're late and it just gets worse. I empathized and said that in those cases, I'd just stay calm, because losing it will just make N worse. He says, "But he still won't do what I ask." I said I'd just carry him to the car quietly and calmly with-o his coat, buckle him in, and tuck his coat around him. husband is concerned that N has all the control as we get ready for school. Obviously, husband is not ready to consider ceding some of that, or the illusion of that. He agreed that what I suggested was the best we could do for now. Last night, N and I went over what he would need to do to make this morning better, and this morning I was coaching him pretty constantly (husband maintains we should be able to tell him what to do and he should do it), and he DID get ready in time to play a computer game for 5 minutes. And lo and behold, when Daddy said, "time to go," N got up and walked to the door, no balking! We both praised him. :) Some days are good days. Thanks again, ladies. [/QUOTE]
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