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<blockquote data-quote="Momslittleangels" data-source="post: 309539" data-attributes="member: 905"><p>Thank you all so much for the support - - it is greatly appreciated. I think much of the problem is "ME".....I am my own worst enemy sometimes. For example, this past weekend, we had to attend a wedding for my cousin. difficult child and her family, easy child and her family and husband and I went. Well, since the wedding ended early, everyone was heading up to the local casino for some fun, but "I" had already volunteered to keep easy child's daughter overnight in "our" room, so THEY could have a peaceful, uninterrupted night for themselves, since my granddaughter gets up a lot during the night. Even at the wedding, I found myself taking care of the grandkids here and there, because they were fussy. My husband keeps trying to drill it into my head that these are "their" kids and to let "them" deal with it. But when they start complaining and getting stressed out, then I get stressed out, and just take the baby myself, as I am calmer and then the baby gets calmer. I remember being so uptight when I had kids young too, and the baby can feel that, so they come to me for relaxed attention, if that makes sense.</p><p></p><p>So I created some of this myself. When raising our kids, I had zero family support, so I am trying to give them "breaks", because I know how it can be.....but in the process, I am taking on too much, so I need to step back. I just hate having people mad at me, so I try to please them all........which you can't always do and it's not good for them anyway.</p><p></p><p>Well, thanks again ladies and I will look up the books on detachment and try to change my ways. It will be easier when they don't live in the same house.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Momslittleangels, post: 309539, member: 905"] Thank you all so much for the support - - it is greatly appreciated. I think much of the problem is "ME".....I am my own worst enemy sometimes. For example, this past weekend, we had to attend a wedding for my cousin. difficult child and her family, easy child and her family and husband and I went. Well, since the wedding ended early, everyone was heading up to the local casino for some fun, but "I" had already volunteered to keep easy child's daughter overnight in "our" room, so THEY could have a peaceful, uninterrupted night for themselves, since my granddaughter gets up a lot during the night. Even at the wedding, I found myself taking care of the grandkids here and there, because they were fussy. My husband keeps trying to drill it into my head that these are "their" kids and to let "them" deal with it. But when they start complaining and getting stressed out, then I get stressed out, and just take the baby myself, as I am calmer and then the baby gets calmer. I remember being so uptight when I had kids young too, and the baby can feel that, so they come to me for relaxed attention, if that makes sense. So I created some of this myself. When raising our kids, I had zero family support, so I am trying to give them "breaks", because I know how it can be.....but in the process, I am taking on too much, so I need to step back. I just hate having people mad at me, so I try to please them all........which you can't always do and it's not good for them anyway. Well, thanks again ladies and I will look up the books on detachment and try to change my ways. It will be easier when they don't live in the same house. [/QUOTE]
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