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<blockquote data-quote="TeDo" data-source="post: 474249"><p>I really hope you don't take this the wrong way but this is all VERY normal. This is about the time the anger stage of grief takes over and that is normal too. It will pass with time and I can only imagine the added burden you have with your own issues.</p><p></p><p>You're right. You will do it because there isn't a choice. You are strong and smart. There are just some things that you didn't have to worry about before that now you do. They can be done and you will find a way. Us warrior moms are great at "creatively" solving problems when we have to.</p><p></p><p>For the things you sometimes forget how to do, try keeping little step-by-step directions in your purse or pocket to follow until it does become habit. I have had to do this because when my anxiety was in high gear, EVERYTHING I knew went out the window. For the mowing, can Travis pull the cords so you can mow?? Break the jobs down into priorities and then into what parts of each NEEDS to be done. The inside of the house can wait until winter is over (except finding the winter clothes). As the child of a new widow, I would have shot my mother if she HADN'T asked for help when she needed it even though I had my own life with twin newborns on top of that. I would rather help her learn to do it herself (I was daddy's "boy"). It's not like you're necessarily going to need their help with everything for the rest of your life and adult children understand that.</p><p></p><p>I am so sorry all of this is hitting so hard so fast. I wish I could be there to lend a hand, I really do. Do whatever you HAVE to in any matter you can. Some things will just have to wait. Other things won't be done right away the way you want them but get the IMPORTANT things done. LET your kids help. Don't shut them out because of pride. You took care of them for so many years, let them take care of you for just a little bit. Don't be so hard on yourself. I would hate to have you explode or worse yet implode. It just isn't worth it.</p><p></p><p>Millions of supportive understanding {{{{(((HUGS)))}}}} coming your way.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TeDo, post: 474249"] I really hope you don't take this the wrong way but this is all VERY normal. This is about the time the anger stage of grief takes over and that is normal too. It will pass with time and I can only imagine the added burden you have with your own issues. You're right. You will do it because there isn't a choice. You are strong and smart. There are just some things that you didn't have to worry about before that now you do. They can be done and you will find a way. Us warrior moms are great at "creatively" solving problems when we have to. For the things you sometimes forget how to do, try keeping little step-by-step directions in your purse or pocket to follow until it does become habit. I have had to do this because when my anxiety was in high gear, EVERYTHING I knew went out the window. For the mowing, can Travis pull the cords so you can mow?? Break the jobs down into priorities and then into what parts of each NEEDS to be done. The inside of the house can wait until winter is over (except finding the winter clothes). As the child of a new widow, I would have shot my mother if she HADN'T asked for help when she needed it even though I had my own life with twin newborns on top of that. I would rather help her learn to do it herself (I was daddy's "boy"). It's not like you're necessarily going to need their help with everything for the rest of your life and adult children understand that. I am so sorry all of this is hitting so hard so fast. I wish I could be there to lend a hand, I really do. Do whatever you HAVE to in any matter you can. Some things will just have to wait. Other things won't be done right away the way you want them but get the IMPORTANT things done. LET your kids help. Don't shut them out because of pride. You took care of them for so many years, let them take care of you for just a little bit. Don't be so hard on yourself. I would hate to have you explode or worse yet implode. It just isn't worth it. Millions of supportive understanding {{{{(((HUGS)))}}}} coming your way. [/QUOTE]
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