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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 355792" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>The thing is, I have tried this mental health place before and they never did anything useful- except the crisis portion which tdo'd difficult child. They lost his files...I won't go on and on about it but difficult child has had outpatient therapy for several years- it never did any good although in fairness to him, none of them would follow the recommendations of a psychiatrist or MDE- they all wanted to go out on their own with what was going on with difficult child and it didn't help that difficult child was presenting a different side to them than he was the rest of the world. </p><p>\</p><p>So although I can't say yet with 100% surety, I am weighing whether or not the time has come for me to throw the towel in. I love him dearly, I never thought I'd get to this point but fighting this system is pointless and if THEY are the ones using counseling or medications as an excuse to "just give difficult child one more chance", that seems ridiculous to me. I never went that route to give him another chance- I went that route because I seriously thought difficult child might need it and had issues that caused this. I'm not looking for an excuse for him and never meant it to be a way to manipulate thye system. I still give validity to what a couple of these psychiatrists said in the past- but what good does it do if the "system" won't suppo0rt them- the system just wants to order behavior mod then blame us because difficult child still has issues. </p><p></p><p>How long or how many times should and can a parent stand and watch people making stuoid decisions for their child? And knowing most, if not all, don't even have children of their own- they are late 20's/early 30's but because they are working in the system, they think thay know everything. Seriously, it is like watching my child be tortured or dieing a slow death- and I am very serious about that. Hpw long am I supposed to stay involved in this? Am I supposed to lie and act supportive of it- which makes me feel like I'm contributing to it? If I say that I don't think this is in difficult child's best interest, I'm accused of not being supportive of their efforts and being non-compliant. I can't for the life of me understand why no one seems to want to go to a judge and just say "this is what profs </p><p>recommended- either we have it avaliable or we don't- but if we don't, it's not difficult child's fault or his motyher's fault". But that statement would apparently be like telling the emporer he has no clothes on.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 355792, member: 3699"] The thing is, I have tried this mental health place before and they never did anything useful- except the crisis portion which tdo'd difficult child. They lost his files...I won't go on and on about it but difficult child has had outpatient therapy for several years- it never did any good although in fairness to him, none of them would follow the recommendations of a psychiatrist or MDE- they all wanted to go out on their own with what was going on with difficult child and it didn't help that difficult child was presenting a different side to them than he was the rest of the world. \ So although I can't say yet with 100% surety, I am weighing whether or not the time has come for me to throw the towel in. I love him dearly, I never thought I'd get to this point but fighting this system is pointless and if THEY are the ones using counseling or medications as an excuse to "just give difficult child one more chance", that seems ridiculous to me. I never went that route to give him another chance- I went that route because I seriously thought difficult child might need it and had issues that caused this. I'm not looking for an excuse for him and never meant it to be a way to manipulate thye system. I still give validity to what a couple of these psychiatrists said in the past- but what good does it do if the "system" won't suppo0rt them- the system just wants to order behavior mod then blame us because difficult child still has issues. How long or how many times should and can a parent stand and watch people making stuoid decisions for their child? And knowing most, if not all, don't even have children of their own- they are late 20's/early 30's but because they are working in the system, they think thay know everything. Seriously, it is like watching my child be tortured or dieing a slow death- and I am very serious about that. Hpw long am I supposed to stay involved in this? Am I supposed to lie and act supportive of it- which makes me feel like I'm contributing to it? If I say that I don't think this is in difficult child's best interest, I'm accused of not being supportive of their efforts and being non-compliant. I can't for the life of me understand why no one seems to want to go to a judge and just say "this is what profs recommended- either we have it avaliable or we don't- but if we don't, it's not difficult child's fault or his motyher's fault". But that statement would apparently be like telling the emporer he has no clothes on. [/QUOTE]
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