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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 355817" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I wish I had the answer for you. It really doesn't seem like anyone in the "system" really knows what is going on, or even why they are seeing difficult child. </p><p></p><p>I think they are trying to get him out for therapy is because they want to try everything before they incarcerate him for years on end. Esp when all he has done are status offenses except for threatening you with a knife. THAT they pretend never happened.</p><p></p><p>I don't know if difficult child can make it outside of a facility. I DO think a group home or some other setup where he wasn't just tossed back to your authority would have had very different results. Heck, even a local foster home for 4-6 months might have helped.</p><p></p><p>The previous GAL and PO did all they could and then some to teach difficult child that he did NOT have to listen to you, that if he was home with you the only rules he had to follow were the ones he liked. So sending him from the very restrictive atmosphere of Department of Juvenile Justice to having NO rules (his perception - NOT the real world), well, it was a prescription for what you are dealing with now. Sadly, NO ONE in they system will even see this, much less acknowledge it, try to change it or try to keep it from happening to another family. </p><p></p><p>I am really sorry that you have had to spend years dealing with this. I know it has taken a huge emotional toll and damaged every facet of your life. And his.</p><p></p><p>As long as he is breathing he can CHOOSE to change things. It will probably take him many many years to do so though. At least with-o counselling it will. I really think that Residential Treatment Center (RTC) would help. I doubt that it will happen though. </p><p></p><p>The whole ankle bracelet thing is stupid. And sad. </p><p></p><p>I wish I had answers. What does difficult child say about all of this, or are you not allowed to contact him? </p><p></p><p>Hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 355817, member: 1233"] I wish I had the answer for you. It really doesn't seem like anyone in the "system" really knows what is going on, or even why they are seeing difficult child. I think they are trying to get him out for therapy is because they want to try everything before they incarcerate him for years on end. Esp when all he has done are status offenses except for threatening you with a knife. THAT they pretend never happened. I don't know if difficult child can make it outside of a facility. I DO think a group home or some other setup where he wasn't just tossed back to your authority would have had very different results. Heck, even a local foster home for 4-6 months might have helped. The previous GAL and PO did all they could and then some to teach difficult child that he did NOT have to listen to you, that if he was home with you the only rules he had to follow were the ones he liked. So sending him from the very restrictive atmosphere of Department of Juvenile Justice to having NO rules (his perception - NOT the real world), well, it was a prescription for what you are dealing with now. Sadly, NO ONE in they system will even see this, much less acknowledge it, try to change it or try to keep it from happening to another family. I am really sorry that you have had to spend years dealing with this. I know it has taken a huge emotional toll and damaged every facet of your life. And his. As long as he is breathing he can CHOOSE to change things. It will probably take him many many years to do so though. At least with-o counselling it will. I really think that Residential Treatment Center (RTC) would help. I doubt that it will happen though. The whole ankle bracelet thing is stupid. And sad. I wish I had answers. What does difficult child say about all of this, or are you not allowed to contact him? Hugs. [/QUOTE]
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