I don't know if any of you remember me, it has been a long time since I checked this site. In looking through some of the posts, most names I don't recognize. I wanted to give an update on my difficult child who is now doing great so that those of you who are suffering right now will know that it can change.
Our son went to his third rehab 3 years ago. It was a hard struggle up to that point. After Rehab he went to a "safe house" and while there he decided he wanted to join the Army so that he could make something of himself. I wasn't very fond of it at the time, but I didn't tell him that. He just got out of the Army in April, 2008, he was only in for 2 years instead of 3; he was having a lot of problems with depression, so they let him out early. He met a girl who lives on the opposite side of the country from us. She is a few years older than him. She wanted to move, so they came home. He hasn't had any luck with finding work here though so they went back to where she is from after 4 months. He really didn't want to leave, but she talked him in to it.
He is such a changed person from the difficult child that he used to be. I used to cry day and night. I used to drive around looking for him and worrying about him. He stole from us. Life was H_ _ _! It wasn't until I threw him out of the house that he finally changed. This time when he left I cried, I cried because I missed him. Those few months that he was home we actually spent lots of time together. We talked and talked. He told me that he wishes he had never started doing drugs, he said that they ruined his life. He told me how sorry he was for everything that he did to us and that if he knew then what he knows now that he would have never done drugs. He said that he was sorry that he never listened to me when I told him how drugs destroy lives. He is now on medication for depression, previously during his difficult child days I took him to many doctors and he would not follow through with therapy or medication.
I just hope and pray that he can find a career (some kind of job so that he can support himself now). Unfortunately due to the recession, there just aren't any jobs right now. He took a course through the sheetmetal union for becoming a pre-apprentice, but due to most of that industry being laid off, he is just on a list. He is a very talented, sweet, kind young adult now.
I hope and pray that all of you see a light at the end of the tunnel that you might be in
right now. It will get better.
Jean
Our son went to his third rehab 3 years ago. It was a hard struggle up to that point. After Rehab he went to a "safe house" and while there he decided he wanted to join the Army so that he could make something of himself. I wasn't very fond of it at the time, but I didn't tell him that. He just got out of the Army in April, 2008, he was only in for 2 years instead of 3; he was having a lot of problems with depression, so they let him out early. He met a girl who lives on the opposite side of the country from us. She is a few years older than him. She wanted to move, so they came home. He hasn't had any luck with finding work here though so they went back to where she is from after 4 months. He really didn't want to leave, but she talked him in to it.
He is such a changed person from the difficult child that he used to be. I used to cry day and night. I used to drive around looking for him and worrying about him. He stole from us. Life was H_ _ _! It wasn't until I threw him out of the house that he finally changed. This time when he left I cried, I cried because I missed him. Those few months that he was home we actually spent lots of time together. We talked and talked. He told me that he wishes he had never started doing drugs, he said that they ruined his life. He told me how sorry he was for everything that he did to us and that if he knew then what he knows now that he would have never done drugs. He said that he was sorry that he never listened to me when I told him how drugs destroy lives. He is now on medication for depression, previously during his difficult child days I took him to many doctors and he would not follow through with therapy or medication.
I just hope and pray that he can find a career (some kind of job so that he can support himself now). Unfortunately due to the recession, there just aren't any jobs right now. He took a course through the sheetmetal union for becoming a pre-apprentice, but due to most of that industry being laid off, he is just on a list. He is a very talented, sweet, kind young adult now.
I hope and pray that all of you see a light at the end of the tunnel that you might be in
right now. It will get better.
Jean
