If you are still physically responsible for your daughter until she's 18, (varies from state to state) I'd be very hesitant to let her move out on her own til her birthday.
Honestly though, I think the professionals have already given you some sound advice. If she's not going to cooperate, and what you're doing isn't making her want to cooperate, then there isn't anything you can do. Especially with her birthday being so close.
Sounds to me like you've entered the beginning stages of Detachment 101. That is a good thing.
Welcome to the board. :grin:
Hugs