Welcome Lovekeepstrying!
You have found a great place full of support and understanding. Many of us have had similar challenges - although no two situations are exactally alike. Let me start with a I know how stressful it can be. It's frustrating that you can't find a way to help your child.
What helped us the most was looking into biomedical doctors. These vary from typical western medication because they take a nutritional look at the body as a whole i.e. could be the gut and or allergies causing nurological problems and the answer could be vitamins, suppliments and or a traditional perscription.
Our dr tested difficult child for allergies (traditional and intolerances) vit & mineral defficencies, metal overload etc)
Some doctors are called DAN! (defeat autism now) some centers are simply called biomedical. Some western medication facilities are embrasing the biomedical treatment - Harvard ladders program, university of flordia and the university of MD.
There has also been congressional testomony on the treatment.
Studies vary on biomedical treatment effectiveness... I've read on average 60% of children show marked improvement. I know there are some members here where it didn't help much however we have had HUGE improvements. Honestly I cried when I found our dr.. I was beginning to think there was no hope. After 2+ years of searching for the right dr we had finally found her.
Let us know how things are going. Hang in there... others will be along soon to give you guidance on getting official diagnosis and support for your difficult child.
