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Just Got Another Phone Call...... GHG hates her life but not enough to quit drinking
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<blockquote data-quote="onlyone" data-source="post: 609219" data-attributes="member: 17020"><p>Thanks so much for the suggestions and support--- I know my difficult child needs medical detox, but unless she commits a crime or is threatening suicide or homicide, she can't be committed against her will. As far as guardianship goes, that is not possible either without her consent or a medical doctor or mental health MD declaring her incompetent- and due to legal issues, it is impossible to find anyone to go that far. Alcohol is legal to purchase and use- so there is no way to get her into treatment or get guardianship over her due to her alcohol abuse. </p><p>Today..... got her to the ER and she reluctantly agreed to go to detox. She was very intoxicated, but called me and said she would go. She called me 'Mommy'. This is the first time in years she agreed to go for some type of treatment. Within the 1/2 hour wait in the ER, she decided she didn't want to stay, she had to leave, so walked out and said she was going to walk back to her apartment. As she was severely intoxicated, she likely would have collapsed or fell into the street where she would have been run over. I tried to detain her, but she started screaming. She said she was going to call 911- which I encouraged her to do as they could have arrested her for public intoxication. They could have made her go to the community detox (drunk tank). She then did not make the call, but started to scream she was being beaten. The hospital security came outside and said they could not do anything- they can't force her to stay. They said they see this all the time- that 'it is a tough situation'. They offered community service flyer that had rehab places listed. They were very kind there, but said there was nothing anyone could do as long as she refuses treatment. I took her back to her apartment. On the way there she kept yelling at me and trying to jump out of the car at every red light. </p><p>So...... different day, but same old story. I highly suspect the extreme alcohol use has caused some kind of psychosis- but right now, no way to get help for her. </p><p>I do not know how my daughter pays rent. She has no income but $200 a month in food stamps. Her rent is $450, plus an electric bill. In the past, some guy or other pays her rent. I suspect this is still the case. She is attractive, but now down to maybe 100 pounds. She is 5'7". She lives in a building where there are a lot of people on disability and welfare. Seems like there is always some guy that she latches onto. I do not ask about her bills. I really don't want to know. She has told me many, many things over the past 10 years that I wish I did not know. </p><p>So--- I am back to working on detachment. Without her wanting help, there is nothing I can do. Her alcoholism and probably mental health issues are in control. </p><p>Thank you all again for your support. It is so sad to see a wasted life.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="onlyone, post: 609219, member: 17020"] Thanks so much for the suggestions and support--- I know my difficult child needs medical detox, but unless she commits a crime or is threatening suicide or homicide, she can't be committed against her will. As far as guardianship goes, that is not possible either without her consent or a medical doctor or mental health MD declaring her incompetent- and due to legal issues, it is impossible to find anyone to go that far. Alcohol is legal to purchase and use- so there is no way to get her into treatment or get guardianship over her due to her alcohol abuse. Today..... got her to the ER and she reluctantly agreed to go to detox. She was very intoxicated, but called me and said she would go. She called me 'Mommy'. This is the first time in years she agreed to go for some type of treatment. Within the 1/2 hour wait in the ER, she decided she didn't want to stay, she had to leave, so walked out and said she was going to walk back to her apartment. As she was severely intoxicated, she likely would have collapsed or fell into the street where she would have been run over. I tried to detain her, but she started screaming. She said she was going to call 911- which I encouraged her to do as they could have arrested her for public intoxication. They could have made her go to the community detox (drunk tank). She then did not make the call, but started to scream she was being beaten. The hospital security came outside and said they could not do anything- they can't force her to stay. They said they see this all the time- that 'it is a tough situation'. They offered community service flyer that had rehab places listed. They were very kind there, but said there was nothing anyone could do as long as she refuses treatment. I took her back to her apartment. On the way there she kept yelling at me and trying to jump out of the car at every red light. So...... different day, but same old story. I highly suspect the extreme alcohol use has caused some kind of psychosis- but right now, no way to get help for her. I do not know how my daughter pays rent. She has no income but $200 a month in food stamps. Her rent is $450, plus an electric bill. In the past, some guy or other pays her rent. I suspect this is still the case. She is attractive, but now down to maybe 100 pounds. She is 5'7". She lives in a building where there are a lot of people on disability and welfare. Seems like there is always some guy that she latches onto. I do not ask about her bills. I really don't want to know. She has told me many, many things over the past 10 years that I wish I did not know. So--- I am back to working on detachment. Without her wanting help, there is nothing I can do. Her alcoholism and probably mental health issues are in control. Thank you all again for your support. It is so sad to see a wasted life. [/QUOTE]
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