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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 455310" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>((((((((((hugs))))))))))</p><p></p><p>I am so sorry that you are hurting so much. It feels so awful and unnatural to know our kids are sick and hurting and to do nothing and to know that even if we did everything we could, spent every dime we had and could beg/borrow/steal/sign our souls away for that it would still not get them out of the pain and sickness they are experiencing.</p><p></p><p>Are you going to alanon meetings or narcanon meetings? Are you seeing a therapist? Those are things you MUST do for you and for husband and most esp for difficult child. Yes, strange as it may sound, you MUST go to therapy and regular (this means at least weekly if not more often) alanon/narcanon meetings if you want to help your difficult child. I know you may have heard this many times, but addiction is a family illness. You, husband and easy child need help and all of you getting help actually increases the probability that difficult child will get help and fight for sobriety and a "normal" life. I know she has mental health issues as well but you cannot know how much of them are due to the addiction issues and how much are mental health issues.</p><p></p><p>Do you think you can trust that the facebook guy is actually a psycho or is he someone she took advantage of who is simply trying to get whatever he lost to her back by contacting the family because he cannot find her/get her to answer his calls/etc.... How trustworthy is difficult child on an issue like this? It is entirely possible that she truly ran into some psycho who is stalking her. But it is also entirely possible that she had some type of relationship with him and stole from him or destroyed his things and now that he wants to be repaid or have her pay to fix what she damaged she is running from him and trying to keep you from communicating with him so that you won't know what she did and he won't know when/if you will be seeing her so he cannot get the cops to come and arrest her while she is with you. </p><p></p><p>Sadly, with a difficult child there is NO way to know which is actually true. I do think that communicating with him on facebook may not be wise. He may try to get you to pay for whatever she did and that is NOT your responsibility nor is it a guilt trip you need to experience. If he truly IS a psycho stalker, at least you know what he looks like from pics on his facebook so you can refuse to open the door or whatever if he comes around.</p><p></p><p>I know you want to rescue her. The doctor appointment is about the only way you really can. I am so very sorry.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 455310, member: 1233"] ((((((((((hugs)))))))))) I am so sorry that you are hurting so much. It feels so awful and unnatural to know our kids are sick and hurting and to do nothing and to know that even if we did everything we could, spent every dime we had and could beg/borrow/steal/sign our souls away for that it would still not get them out of the pain and sickness they are experiencing. Are you going to alanon meetings or narcanon meetings? Are you seeing a therapist? Those are things you MUST do for you and for husband and most esp for difficult child. Yes, strange as it may sound, you MUST go to therapy and regular (this means at least weekly if not more often) alanon/narcanon meetings if you want to help your difficult child. I know you may have heard this many times, but addiction is a family illness. You, husband and easy child need help and all of you getting help actually increases the probability that difficult child will get help and fight for sobriety and a "normal" life. I know she has mental health issues as well but you cannot know how much of them are due to the addiction issues and how much are mental health issues. Do you think you can trust that the facebook guy is actually a psycho or is he someone she took advantage of who is simply trying to get whatever he lost to her back by contacting the family because he cannot find her/get her to answer his calls/etc.... How trustworthy is difficult child on an issue like this? It is entirely possible that she truly ran into some psycho who is stalking her. But it is also entirely possible that she had some type of relationship with him and stole from him or destroyed his things and now that he wants to be repaid or have her pay to fix what she damaged she is running from him and trying to keep you from communicating with him so that you won't know what she did and he won't know when/if you will be seeing her so he cannot get the cops to come and arrest her while she is with you. Sadly, with a difficult child there is NO way to know which is actually true. I do think that communicating with him on facebook may not be wise. He may try to get you to pay for whatever she did and that is NOT your responsibility nor is it a guilt trip you need to experience. If he truly IS a psycho stalker, at least you know what he looks like from pics on his facebook so you can refuse to open the door or whatever if he comes around. I know you want to rescue her. The doctor appointment is about the only way you really can. I am so very sorry. [/QUOTE]
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