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Just hospitalized my 8yr old daughter for the first time on Wednesday
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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 404072" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>Hugs!</p><p> </p><p>I hospitalized my difficult child when he was 11 years old. His anxiety had grown so deep that he could no longer handle the self harm thoughts. I was so scared for him. </p><p> </p><p>I know what you are going through. I remember the one hour drive home on the phone with the church secretary (the day school teacher I was trying to reach had left for the day) and wondering how in the world was I going to face husband? How can I tell my family that I put difficult child in this hospital? I spent the days at work crying for much of the first week. Good thing I had a private office and a great support through my co-workers and supervisor. I visited him every night during visitation time and stayed at a hotel near the hospital. The next morning I would drive the one hour home to work. I work 4 hour days but for that week I worked longer hours just to have a distraction.</p><p> </p><p>When difficult child came home after two weeks, he stated on the first night that he kind of missed the psychiatric hospital. There was security in their bedtime and morning scheduling. I am sure there was security in there entire day of scheduling - he knew what to expect next. The kids learned how to end the day and start the new one. So, for awhile, he followed the bedtime schedule the psychiatric hospital had for the kids. That was a few years ago so I don't remember it exactly but it did include shower, snack time and quiet time.</p><p> </p><p>Ask how to handle an outburst, how to watch for a start of one, and who you can call for support.</p><p> </p><p>My difficult child was given a lot of tools to use to recognize the start of an anxious moment and to ward it off. Some options he was able to draw upon was, journal, talk to an adult, and breathing exercises. Ask what your daughter has learned about controlling her own emotions, what you can do to help remind her of this ability.</p><p> </p><p>The key right now is for you and her to recognize an angry of anxious moment before it gets out of hand. I found with difficult child that often times took a backwards looking plan. You back track through every event asking, "How did you feel just before this step?" After awhile, she may recognize that first feeling and know she wants to get control at that moment before it gets out of control.</p><p> </p><p>I hope she is willing to work on this - that will make things a lot easier!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 404072, member: 5096"] Hugs! I hospitalized my difficult child when he was 11 years old. His anxiety had grown so deep that he could no longer handle the self harm thoughts. I was so scared for him. I know what you are going through. I remember the one hour drive home on the phone with the church secretary (the day school teacher I was trying to reach had left for the day) and wondering how in the world was I going to face husband? How can I tell my family that I put difficult child in this hospital? I spent the days at work crying for much of the first week. Good thing I had a private office and a great support through my co-workers and supervisor. I visited him every night during visitation time and stayed at a hotel near the hospital. The next morning I would drive the one hour home to work. I work 4 hour days but for that week I worked longer hours just to have a distraction. When difficult child came home after two weeks, he stated on the first night that he kind of missed the psychiatric hospital. There was security in their bedtime and morning scheduling. I am sure there was security in there entire day of scheduling - he knew what to expect next. The kids learned how to end the day and start the new one. So, for awhile, he followed the bedtime schedule the psychiatric hospital had for the kids. That was a few years ago so I don't remember it exactly but it did include shower, snack time and quiet time. Ask how to handle an outburst, how to watch for a start of one, and who you can call for support. My difficult child was given a lot of tools to use to recognize the start of an anxious moment and to ward it off. Some options he was able to draw upon was, journal, talk to an adult, and breathing exercises. Ask what your daughter has learned about controlling her own emotions, what you can do to help remind her of this ability. The key right now is for you and her to recognize an angry of anxious moment before it gets out of hand. I found with difficult child that often times took a backwards looking plan. You back track through every event asking, "How did you feel just before this step?" After awhile, she may recognize that first feeling and know she wants to get control at that moment before it gets out of control. I hope she is willing to work on this - that will make things a lot easier! [/QUOTE]
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