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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 527340" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>The time to start looking for answers is when you see it having a negative impact on her life, like always being in trouble. And/or when your instincts say that something isn't right. Mom instincts are a gift meant to ensure the survival of your child. They don't lie, or fudge or exaggerate. If you ignore your mom instincts, it usually ends up in regrets. The times I made really BIG mistakes iwth my kids were always when an expert (or my mom) insisted one thing and my gut said another and I did what the expert wanted. Mistake in a huge way every time. </p><p></p><p>I am thinking something is going on. This is not normal for a child who was 'well behaved' the first few years. I am wondering if maybe she has a problem with the social cues and things that are not taught explicitly. Most diagnosis's of this are of some level of autism, but it is NOT a hopeless diagnosis. My father is an Aspie, meaning if he were ever evaluated he would get a diagnosis of asperger's disorder. He taught school for almost 40 yrs very successfully, has a family that loves him, a wife of over 45 yrs, and overall has had a wonderful independent life. My son is also an aspie but he is in college getting top grades and has a lot of friends, is always doing something with them, andhas turned from a difficult child to a easy child in a major way. </p><p></p><p>Autism is NOT the stereotyped thing people think of. The diagnosis isn't scary once you realize it is just meaning that she has to elarn things a different way. She may not realize that other people don't want her in their space - it may not make sense to her. This would be a symptom. How do you help it? Look for social stories online and on amazon/ebay/bookstores/ She will likely need the various social rules spelled out and practiced. </p><p></p><p>I am not saying she IS or MUST be autistic in any degree or level. It is just one diagnosis I can thnk of that would have these behaviors happening. </p><p></p><p>One thing to think about is that children do well <em>when they are able</em>, not when they want to. Chances are she isn't really sure what those social rules are, and something is keeping her from remembering them. </p><p></p><p>I would do the Occupational Therapist (OT) and Speech Language Pathologist (SLP) evaluations. Ignore the school when they say she is 'too young' or they don't do that yet. They do. THey are required to evaluate her within a certain number of days after receiving a letter from you asking for a full and complete evaluation. You can find a form in the archives to put her name and school etc... in and then you send the letter certified mail return receipt requested. Make sure that the letter says that it is your permission for the school to do the testing so they don't try to tell you that you have to sign other forms and the deadline doesn't start until they are signed. The cert mail will put into place legal protections for your daughter and that timeline that is mandated by federal law. It is NOT optional and is not tied to the school calendar. Regardless of what the school tells you.</p><p></p><p>I would also look for private Occupational Therapist (OT) and Speech Language Pathologist (SLP) evaluations because school ones just are not the most complete. they can do part of it, but you also need private evaluation to find the stuff that impacts her outside of school.</p><p></p><p>Welcome to our forum. Here you will find a huge source of support, info, help and lots of people who won't judge you and who will understand because we have been there done that.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 527340, member: 1233"] The time to start looking for answers is when you see it having a negative impact on her life, like always being in trouble. And/or when your instincts say that something isn't right. Mom instincts are a gift meant to ensure the survival of your child. They don't lie, or fudge or exaggerate. If you ignore your mom instincts, it usually ends up in regrets. The times I made really BIG mistakes iwth my kids were always when an expert (or my mom) insisted one thing and my gut said another and I did what the expert wanted. Mistake in a huge way every time. I am thinking something is going on. This is not normal for a child who was 'well behaved' the first few years. I am wondering if maybe she has a problem with the social cues and things that are not taught explicitly. Most diagnosis's of this are of some level of autism, but it is NOT a hopeless diagnosis. My father is an Aspie, meaning if he were ever evaluated he would get a diagnosis of asperger's disorder. He taught school for almost 40 yrs very successfully, has a family that loves him, a wife of over 45 yrs, and overall has had a wonderful independent life. My son is also an aspie but he is in college getting top grades and has a lot of friends, is always doing something with them, andhas turned from a difficult child to a easy child in a major way. Autism is NOT the stereotyped thing people think of. The diagnosis isn't scary once you realize it is just meaning that she has to elarn things a different way. She may not realize that other people don't want her in their space - it may not make sense to her. This would be a symptom. How do you help it? Look for social stories online and on amazon/ebay/bookstores/ She will likely need the various social rules spelled out and practiced. I am not saying she IS or MUST be autistic in any degree or level. It is just one diagnosis I can thnk of that would have these behaviors happening. One thing to think about is that children do well [I]when they are able[/I], not when they want to. Chances are she isn't really sure what those social rules are, and something is keeping her from remembering them. I would do the Occupational Therapist (OT) and Speech Language Pathologist (SLP) evaluations. Ignore the school when they say she is 'too young' or they don't do that yet. They do. THey are required to evaluate her within a certain number of days after receiving a letter from you asking for a full and complete evaluation. You can find a form in the archives to put her name and school etc... in and then you send the letter certified mail return receipt requested. Make sure that the letter says that it is your permission for the school to do the testing so they don't try to tell you that you have to sign other forms and the deadline doesn't start until they are signed. The cert mail will put into place legal protections for your daughter and that timeline that is mandated by federal law. It is NOT optional and is not tied to the school calendar. Regardless of what the school tells you. I would also look for private Occupational Therapist (OT) and Speech Language Pathologist (SLP) evaluations because school ones just are not the most complete. they can do part of it, but you also need private evaluation to find the stuff that impacts her outside of school. Welcome to our forum. Here you will find a huge source of support, info, help and lots of people who won't judge you and who will understand because we have been there done that. [/QUOTE]
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