I agree that she probably wants something from you and knows that saying you are not emotionally available for her is probably a ploy. Obviously, it's not just emotional support she wants. That is love and you give her love. She obviously wants you to let her move in and repeat abuse cycle again. That's not emotional support. That's enabling.
I feel that the safest way to have a relationship with somebody who is very hard to get along with is to meet them in public places where they are less likely to act out or keep it to maybe twice a week, ten minute phone calls. No lightbulb has gone off in your daughter's head. She is not taking responsibility for her part in this. It is unlikely she has changed or that the cycle of abuse would end. And manipulation.
You can not be responsible for anybody's emotions but your own. The same for your daughter. We are incapable of making another person's outlook on life change for the better. Plus...would you really WANT to support her behavior?
Hugs for your hurting heart!!!
