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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 96833" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>been there done that and still hearing it. As I tell my daughter, I'll happily let you do it all when you start doing it. Until then, I will remind you to clean the cat box, straighten up your room, take care of your responsibilities. The other day, she was going over a friend's. I started to ask her some questions and then remembered that she's 20. I stopped, told her it was none of my business and apologized for starting to ask. She then volunteered she would be home by 11 pm and gave me the phone number. So, it can get better.</p><p></p><p>In middle school, it was more than reminders, it was double and triple checking to see things were done. After Residential Treatment Center (RTC) in high school, it was simply asking if things were caught up. If not, it was her responsibility. All I would do was make suggestions how she could talk to her teachers to see what was needed. Today, I don't remind her about work but I do remind her what I want done at home and I'm backing off of that more and more.</p><p></p><p>In middle and high school, I heard all of the none of my business, you're too controlling, etc. The most painful one was when she told me she couldn't wait to grow up and move out. I would never see her again nor would I be allowed to share in any part of her life. It does change as they mature. Last night, she asked me to come watch a movie with her, help her learn to ride her new scooter and asked advice about her new job. So, hang in there, it will get better after getting much worse.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 96833, member: 3626"] been there done that and still hearing it. As I tell my daughter, I'll happily let you do it all when you start doing it. Until then, I will remind you to clean the cat box, straighten up your room, take care of your responsibilities. The other day, she was going over a friend's. I started to ask her some questions and then remembered that she's 20. I stopped, told her it was none of my business and apologized for starting to ask. She then volunteered she would be home by 11 pm and gave me the phone number. So, it can get better. In middle school, it was more than reminders, it was double and triple checking to see things were done. After Residential Treatment Center (RTC) in high school, it was simply asking if things were caught up. If not, it was her responsibility. All I would do was make suggestions how she could talk to her teachers to see what was needed. Today, I don't remind her about work but I do remind her what I want done at home and I'm backing off of that more and more. In middle and high school, I heard all of the none of my business, you're too controlling, etc. The most painful one was when she told me she couldn't wait to grow up and move out. I would never see her again nor would I be allowed to share in any part of her life. It does change as they mature. Last night, she asked me to come watch a movie with her, help her learn to ride her new scooter and asked advice about her new job. So, hang in there, it will get better after getting much worse. [/QUOTE]
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