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<blockquote data-quote="RN0441" data-source="post: 738629" data-attributes="member: 15032"><p>Welcome.</p><p></p><p>Sorry to hear your story. Mine isn't so far off either.</p><p></p><p>Nothing helped until we sent our son away to sober living after one of many trips to rehab. I knew that he'd start right back up after rehab because he had not been sober long enough for his addicted brain to actually think right.</p><p></p><p>He screwed up again and again. And again. He wanted to be near us but I wanted no part of it. I was detaching with the help of a therapist. I had to set boundaries for myself and him too. I had to function. I didn't want to "love him to death".</p><p></p><p>He is doing well now and I am happy that we were able to force him into a faith based program. He has been sober almost a year and has his priorities straight for the first time EVER. He will come to live with us in November after completing a 13 month program. I am happy but I am also very anxious. I am also very scared. He has wasted so many years of his life.</p><p></p><p>The fact is, it won't end with your son because he isn't ready to change so YOU have to change. It's so difficult and the hardest thing that I ever have done but I am glad for the changes and maturity I have seen in him now. As long as he is alive there is hope. But the best thing I can tell you is that you cannot parent these adult children like you parent your other children. It's almost the complete opposite. Normal parenting doesn't work. You can't clean him up and brush him off like when he was little. </p><p></p><p>I didn't want a 30 year old on my couch when I came home from work asking what's for dinner!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="RN0441, post: 738629, member: 15032"] Welcome. Sorry to hear your story. Mine isn't so far off either. Nothing helped until we sent our son away to sober living after one of many trips to rehab. I knew that he'd start right back up after rehab because he had not been sober long enough for his addicted brain to actually think right. He screwed up again and again. And again. He wanted to be near us but I wanted no part of it. I was detaching with the help of a therapist. I had to set boundaries for myself and him too. I had to function. I didn't want to "love him to death". He is doing well now and I am happy that we were able to force him into a faith based program. He has been sober almost a year and has his priorities straight for the first time EVER. He will come to live with us in November after completing a 13 month program. I am happy but I am also very anxious. I am also very scared. He has wasted so many years of his life. The fact is, it won't end with your son because he isn't ready to change so YOU have to change. It's so difficult and the hardest thing that I ever have done but I am glad for the changes and maturity I have seen in him now. As long as he is alive there is hope. But the best thing I can tell you is that you cannot parent these adult children like you parent your other children. It's almost the complete opposite. Normal parenting doesn't work. You can't clean him up and brush him off like when he was little. I didn't want a 30 year old on my couch when I came home from work asking what's for dinner! [/QUOTE]
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