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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 488907"><p>Agreed on the no judgement.... and I think even really well meaning friends want to help you find a solution, sometimes when there is none. I have one friend who i care about who is older than me.... and once she asked how my son was doing... and then started telling me how I had to give him chores, and make him do blah blah blah. Like that was going to stop his drug use. Sure it worked with her kids but they did not have drug problems!!!</p><p></p><p>And my son is now 20.... I finally said to her, there is NOTHING I can do at this point. Really. </p><p></p><p>I just think it is hard for other parents to accept that there is nothing you can do....they want to feel that they have control over their kids behavior and so don't want to accept that you don't... because if you don't maybe they don't either.</p><p></p><p>Fact is once kids reach their teens parents have a whole lot less control.... with a easy child that is natural healthy progression as they may make some mistakes but also learn responsibility.... with a difficult child its a different story.</p><p></p><p>TL</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 488907"] Agreed on the no judgement.... and I think even really well meaning friends want to help you find a solution, sometimes when there is none. I have one friend who i care about who is older than me.... and once she asked how my son was doing... and then started telling me how I had to give him chores, and make him do blah blah blah. Like that was going to stop his drug use. Sure it worked with her kids but they did not have drug problems!!! And my son is now 20.... I finally said to her, there is NOTHING I can do at this point. Really. I just think it is hard for other parents to accept that there is nothing you can do....they want to feel that they have control over their kids behavior and so don't want to accept that you don't... because if you don't maybe they don't either. Fact is once kids reach their teens parents have a whole lot less control.... with a easy child that is natural healthy progression as they may make some mistakes but also learn responsibility.... with a difficult child its a different story. TL [/QUOTE]
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