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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 744144" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>He sounds like he has a mild case as does husband. The lack of empathy is probsbly not true. People with no empathy are psychopaths. Autistics tend to have stoic expresdions and do not know how to show emotions. Many dont know how. That is different than not feeling them. My autistic son is very empathetic and he can show his kindness. Every autistic is different.</p><p></p><p>I am suspecting that the poor kid with Tourettes cant control his out bursts and just said he.is doing it on purpose to make your son and others think that he has control over his tics but really does not. I had severe learning disabilities and if people asked me why I did poorly in school I lied and said "I just dont try." It wasnt the reason but I felt it was better that kids thought I didnt try than that I couldnt do the work. Back in the day, there was no help for kids like me.</p><p></p><p>We treated our autistoc son like his siblings but he was not as high fumctionong as your son and when he needed help, we got him help. Or we helped and showed him what to do. Period. We never told him he could do somethomg he didnt understand. He is doing great as an adult but he still needs some help.</p><p></p><p>For mamy autistics unless tjey are very high functioning just telling them they can do it does NOT work. I can not speak fof your child. You said you knew he was different. His coach was an a&& but he knows he is different. So it does show somewhat.</p><p></p><p> Unless he is a behavior problem, schools dont care. You have to decide if he could use therapy or social skills classes to teach him more "normal" ways of behaving. We had to. Our son was behind in these areas and too shy around people. He had panic attacks in crowds and could not handle loud noise. He still likes to be alone and thats okay but we gave him all we felt he needed. Consequently you must make that decision too. Or not.</p><p> You know your kid best.</p><p></p><p>Just dont berate your husband or son for being different. They are different but not in a bad way.</p><p></p><p>My son had no reaction to being told he was autistic. A neuropsychologist explained it well. To this day he is very cheerful, kind and comfortable in his skin. It doesnt bother him to be different. He is both my angel and my hero.</p><p></p><p>Again your son may do fine just being a little different and not social. So what? You have a fine young boy doing well and you should not be angry at yourself. The main thing is that HE feels good about himself and can shrug off his differences without inner pain. If you notice he struggles with people, in crowds with noise or textures or certain foods or feels badly about himself then you can make choices for possible interventions. Or not. Nothing you do will probably make him love a lotlof people at once or crowds. He will make friends, if a few that he picks carefully. My son can now handle most things. Your son in my opinion will.do.well and learn some adjustments. Help him where he needs it. Treat him like a normal person who has a few quirks. I personally think quirks are cool <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p><p></p><p>Love and light to a great parent!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 744144, member: 1550"] He sounds like he has a mild case as does husband. The lack of empathy is probsbly not true. People with no empathy are psychopaths. Autistics tend to have stoic expresdions and do not know how to show emotions. Many dont know how. That is different than not feeling them. My autistic son is very empathetic and he can show his kindness. Every autistic is different. I am suspecting that the poor kid with Tourettes cant control his out bursts and just said he.is doing it on purpose to make your son and others think that he has control over his tics but really does not. I had severe learning disabilities and if people asked me why I did poorly in school I lied and said "I just dont try." It wasnt the reason but I felt it was better that kids thought I didnt try than that I couldnt do the work. Back in the day, there was no help for kids like me. We treated our autistoc son like his siblings but he was not as high fumctionong as your son and when he needed help, we got him help. Or we helped and showed him what to do. Period. We never told him he could do somethomg he didnt understand. He is doing great as an adult but he still needs some help. For mamy autistics unless tjey are very high functioning just telling them they can do it does NOT work. I can not speak fof your child. You said you knew he was different. His coach was an a&& but he knows he is different. So it does show somewhat. Unless he is a behavior problem, schools dont care. You have to decide if he could use therapy or social skills classes to teach him more "normal" ways of behaving. We had to. Our son was behind in these areas and too shy around people. He had panic attacks in crowds and could not handle loud noise. He still likes to be alone and thats okay but we gave him all we felt he needed. Consequently you must make that decision too. Or not. You know your kid best. Just dont berate your husband or son for being different. They are different but not in a bad way. My son had no reaction to being told he was autistic. A neuropsychologist explained it well. To this day he is very cheerful, kind and comfortable in his skin. It doesnt bother him to be different. He is both my angel and my hero. Again your son may do fine just being a little different and not social. So what? You have a fine young boy doing well and you should not be angry at yourself. The main thing is that HE feels good about himself and can shrug off his differences without inner pain. If you notice he struggles with people, in crowds with noise or textures or certain foods or feels badly about himself then you can make choices for possible interventions. Or not. Nothing you do will probably make him love a lotlof people at once or crowds. He will make friends, if a few that he picks carefully. My son can now handle most things. Your son in my opinion will.do.well and learn some adjustments. Help him where he needs it. Treat him like a normal person who has a few quirks. I personally think quirks are cool :) Love and light to a great parent! [/QUOTE]
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