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<blockquote data-quote="Tiredof33" data-source="post: 628547" data-attributes="member: 13558"><p>(((hugs))) My difficult child likes to fight with his girlfriend, threaten suicide, and then cuts himself so theres blood everywhere. I have seen long scars on his arms so he's been doing this for a while.</p><p></p><p>Girlie wanted to call me each time they had a fight, which was often as they both thrive on drama, and I refused to get drawn in. That started a war on her part, her last harassing message was like, 'It's on B****, I have all day to call you.'</p><p></p><p>Luckily we lived in another state a good 5 hours away. I firmly believe she would be doing drive bys lol!!!</p><p></p><p>When I refuse to fight with her she started harassing my daughter, she also lived far enough away we felt she was safe.</p><p></p><p>One morning at 6 AM the girlie started the harassing calls and I had enough, so I called police. They went to the home (she lives with her mother) and advised her zero contact with me or I could press charges. She told police my difficult child was suicidal and police talked to him and he said no her was not.</p><p></p><p>Then they had a fight and she tried to cut him with a knife and she was arrested and place in detox. He was telling me if I did not give him money he would kill himself, life was just too hard. I called the police twice and when they talked to him he always told them he was not suicidal. I spoke with counselors and they said to prepare yourself for the worse (HOW!) he may just do it one day.</p><p></p><p>I tried for 6 months to help him with no changes on his part, girlies gets out of jail and they're back together. I'm way over this stuff so I told him so and he went no contact with me for a little over a year.</p><p></p><p>He wanted me to join him on Twitter and I did check it out, but told him if he wanted to contact me either call collect or send an email. She posts on Twitter about smoking pot all day and going to concerts, and it doesn't appear that she works. She's 40! I have very little contact with him now, he moved to Denver and didn't let me know for over 3 months. BUT, he does not ask for money, and she doesn't harass me or my family.</p><p></p><p>I know he had a very rough time when I finally stopped giving him money and I'm sure he was homeless, he may be now, he lies so much that I really have no idea.</p><p></p><p>I do not send birthday or Christmas (no address to send them to) and the first year that bothered me. He did send me an email for Mother's Day.</p><p></p><p>When I visited friends in Denver a very long time ago there was a large population of young homeless pan handling downtown. He has given me this story of working, but it may be another fantasy of his. He actually sent me a picture and there is no way I would show it to anyone and say this is my son. He looked pretty rough. To me it is strange that he would send it and try to convince me he is doing well. So hard to figure out their reasons!</p><p></p><p>There really is nothing you can do, but continue to hand out money and try to help, and everything will stay just as it is now. I never dreamed my son would turn out to be this man. Whether it is drugs or mental illness, or both, it's a life style that really puzzles me.</p><p></p><p>Take care of yourself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiredof33, post: 628547, member: 13558"] (((hugs))) My difficult child likes to fight with his girlfriend, threaten suicide, and then cuts himself so theres blood everywhere. I have seen long scars on his arms so he's been doing this for a while. Girlie wanted to call me each time they had a fight, which was often as they both thrive on drama, and I refused to get drawn in. That started a war on her part, her last harassing message was like, 'It's on B****, I have all day to call you.' Luckily we lived in another state a good 5 hours away. I firmly believe she would be doing drive bys lol!!! When I refuse to fight with her she started harassing my daughter, she also lived far enough away we felt she was safe. One morning at 6 AM the girlie started the harassing calls and I had enough, so I called police. They went to the home (she lives with her mother) and advised her zero contact with me or I could press charges. She told police my difficult child was suicidal and police talked to him and he said no her was not. Then they had a fight and she tried to cut him with a knife and she was arrested and place in detox. He was telling me if I did not give him money he would kill himself, life was just too hard. I called the police twice and when they talked to him he always told them he was not suicidal. I spoke with counselors and they said to prepare yourself for the worse (HOW!) he may just do it one day. I tried for 6 months to help him with no changes on his part, girlies gets out of jail and they're back together. I'm way over this stuff so I told him so and he went no contact with me for a little over a year. He wanted me to join him on Twitter and I did check it out, but told him if he wanted to contact me either call collect or send an email. She posts on Twitter about smoking pot all day and going to concerts, and it doesn't appear that she works. She's 40! I have very little contact with him now, he moved to Denver and didn't let me know for over 3 months. BUT, he does not ask for money, and she doesn't harass me or my family. I know he had a very rough time when I finally stopped giving him money and I'm sure he was homeless, he may be now, he lies so much that I really have no idea. I do not send birthday or Christmas (no address to send them to) and the first year that bothered me. He did send me an email for Mother's Day. When I visited friends in Denver a very long time ago there was a large population of young homeless pan handling downtown. He has given me this story of working, but it may be another fantasy of his. He actually sent me a picture and there is no way I would show it to anyone and say this is my son. He looked pretty rough. To me it is strange that he would send it and try to convince me he is doing well. So hard to figure out their reasons! There really is nothing you can do, but continue to hand out money and try to help, and everything will stay just as it is now. I never dreamed my son would turn out to be this man. Whether it is drugs or mental illness, or both, it's a life style that really puzzles me. Take care of yourself. [/QUOTE]
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