Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Just spoke with-difficult child!
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="rejectedmom" data-source="post: 242031" data-attributes="member: 2315"><p>KLMNO, OK her are a few things to think about. I have been through this wih my difficult child 2. In this state and I think it holds true for most if not all the juvie records are sealed and if your difficult child doesn't get into anymore trouble they are expunged. So the juvie detention center stay willnot affect his chances for a job or college. Second until he is of legal age, whenever they feel his is ready to go home, they will send him home unless 1) the judge says he is to stay in prison or 2) you relinquish your parental rights. If you relinquish your rights he will most likely be put into foster care and not necessarily therapeudic foster care.</p><p></p><p>The other thing I learned is that when our difficult child's are placed out of our home we do better both for them and ourselves if we just take care of ourselves and rest up for when they are returned to us or the next crisis comes along where we must advocate for them. It is sort of like when they were infants you sleep when the baby sleeps so you are rested when you need to be. These situations take alot out of us and it is OK to take advantage of the time you are not in the trenches to just breathe and relax. I know it sounds odd to tell someone to relax when their kid is in crisis centers or jail but worry doesn't change their situation and it exausts the parent. So while he is out of your home TAKE CARE OF YOU! </p><p></p><p>As bad as it may sound, while our difficult child isn't doing too well, husband and I rest so much better when we know difficult child is in a residential program or even in jail. At least we then know that he is warm, getting three squares, and on his medications. ((((HUGS)))) -RM</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rejectedmom, post: 242031, member: 2315"] KLMNO, OK her are a few things to think about. I have been through this wih my difficult child 2. In this state and I think it holds true for most if not all the juvie records are sealed and if your difficult child doesn't get into anymore trouble they are expunged. So the juvie detention center stay willnot affect his chances for a job or college. Second until he is of legal age, whenever they feel his is ready to go home, they will send him home unless 1) the judge says he is to stay in prison or 2) you relinquish your parental rights. If you relinquish your rights he will most likely be put into foster care and not necessarily therapeudic foster care. The other thing I learned is that when our difficult child's are placed out of our home we do better both for them and ourselves if we just take care of ourselves and rest up for when they are returned to us or the next crisis comes along where we must advocate for them. It is sort of like when they were infants you sleep when the baby sleeps so you are rested when you need to be. These situations take alot out of us and it is OK to take advantage of the time you are not in the trenches to just breathe and relax. I know it sounds odd to tell someone to relax when their kid is in crisis centers or jail but worry doesn't change their situation and it exausts the parent. So while he is out of your home TAKE CARE OF YOU! As bad as it may sound, while our difficult child isn't doing too well, husband and I rest so much better when we know difficult child is in a residential program or even in jail. At least we then know that he is warm, getting three squares, and on his medications. ((((HUGS)))) -RM [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Just spoke with-difficult child!
Top