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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 631688" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I have to agree with the other ladies. Don't visit if he's going to be a jerk, and cut off the money. They do NOT stop abusing us until we show them we really, really will not put up with it and the fun and games are over. The nicer we are, the worse they treat us. It's like they know they're being jerks and lose respect if we put up with it. It has been a while since 36 has been abusive on the phone, and that's nothing short of miraculous. They won't respect us if we don't show them we feel we deserve it. And it hurts their own self-esteem too and their recovery when we allow them to act with impunity like we are carpet below their feet just because they got themselves into bad situations.</p><p></p><p>I agree with going to a twelve step group too. This is about YOU and YOUR life. Your son is making bad choices...all of us have to learn to live our lives even though our grown children aren't doing well, and it's pretty impossible to do it without face time support.</p><p></p><p>Hugs for your hurting mommy heart.</p><p></p><p>I</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 631688, member: 1550"] I have to agree with the other ladies. Don't visit if he's going to be a jerk, and cut off the money. They do NOT stop abusing us until we show them we really, really will not put up with it and the fun and games are over. The nicer we are, the worse they treat us. It's like they know they're being jerks and lose respect if we put up with it. It has been a while since 36 has been abusive on the phone, and that's nothing short of miraculous. They won't respect us if we don't show them we feel we deserve it. And it hurts their own self-esteem too and their recovery when we allow them to act with impunity like we are carpet below their feet just because they got themselves into bad situations. I agree with going to a twelve step group too. This is about YOU and YOUR life. Your son is making bad choices...all of us have to learn to live our lives even though our grown children aren't doing well, and it's pretty impossible to do it without face time support. Hugs for your hurting mommy heart. I [/QUOTE]
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