Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Substance Abuse
just threw my 16-yr-old difficult child & friends out for smoking weed at my house...
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="recovering doormat" data-source="post: 275965" data-attributes="member: 5941"><p>Sadly, I have learnee this lesson the hard way too. Last October I locked up my house and went to visit my brother and family in northern Virginia, for my niece's Confirmation. He had asked me to not bring my kids, knowing about their recreational drug use, use of profanity, and just generally not being good influences on his three kids, ages 9 to 16. I went by myself, needing the break.</p><p> </p><p>When I got home it was obvious that there had been a party during my two day absence. Dirty dishes in the sink, bleach stains on my son's bedroom carpet, empty bottles of Zima and wine coolers, and the place smelled like a freshman dorm hallway, stale marijuana and beer. The door was locked, so it wasn't a break-in. My 18 yr old daughter found a key to my house at her dad's (I thought I had confiscated all the house keys, since I didn't trust her or her brother) and the two of them proceeded to invite "friends" over. ONe of the friends was a young man she had met on MySpace who apparently, from the messages on his page, was the go-to guy in the neighborhood for small quantities of weed and whatever else you wanted. </p><p> </p><p>At the time, I was furious with my kids for showing me such disrespect, and deeply relieved that no one got into a car wreck after leaving my house or O.D.'d.</p><p> </p><p>About a month later, Thanksgiving eve, I was arranging my bureau drawers and for some reason decided to open a jewelry case. Something about the way the three cases were arranged in the drawer didn't look right. I opened the first one, expecting to see my wedding pearl choker my ex gave me after the rehearsal dinner, and it was gone. I opened another case looking for a lapis lazuli choker from Chile that he got me during a business trip, and it was gone. Ditto another necklace/earring set, my wedding and engagement rings, sapphire earrings my ex mother in law gave me...I was sick. Called the cops, insurance company, but the only advice they could give me was to check the pawn shops (I never did, I was too devastated).</p><p> </p><p>Kids claimed they didn't know anything about it, and I beleive them. I don't know exactly when the stuff, about $20K worth, actually disappeared. There were no signs of break in, and the items were removed from the cases/boxes, so it was obviously not professional jewel thieves but most likely an acquaintance my kids allowed in the house when I was not home , who traded my keepsakes for a few bags of weed. </p><p> </p><p>It took months for the sadness and depression over this violation of my trust to really hit me. I'm still in the midst of it. </p><p> </p><p>I'm sorry I was so naive. It never occured to me that someone would do this. I should have hidden my valuables. It's a hard lesson but it won't happen to me again.</p><p> </p><p>Fortunately, my daughter is in a better place now, but my son doesn't seem to have learned his lesson yet. Last night was a slap in my face, but I've decided that when he visits me in the future he will not be allowed to have guests over, and I will certainly not pay him cash for yardwork and chores. </p><p> </p><p>Sigh. I will learn the hard way.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recovering doormat, post: 275965, member: 5941"] Sadly, I have learnee this lesson the hard way too. Last October I locked up my house and went to visit my brother and family in northern Virginia, for my niece's Confirmation. He had asked me to not bring my kids, knowing about their recreational drug use, use of profanity, and just generally not being good influences on his three kids, ages 9 to 16. I went by myself, needing the break. When I got home it was obvious that there had been a party during my two day absence. Dirty dishes in the sink, bleach stains on my son's bedroom carpet, empty bottles of Zima and wine coolers, and the place smelled like a freshman dorm hallway, stale marijuana and beer. The door was locked, so it wasn't a break-in. My 18 yr old daughter found a key to my house at her dad's (I thought I had confiscated all the house keys, since I didn't trust her or her brother) and the two of them proceeded to invite "friends" over. ONe of the friends was a young man she had met on MySpace who apparently, from the messages on his page, was the go-to guy in the neighborhood for small quantities of weed and whatever else you wanted. At the time, I was furious with my kids for showing me such disrespect, and deeply relieved that no one got into a car wreck after leaving my house or O.D.'d. About a month later, Thanksgiving eve, I was arranging my bureau drawers and for some reason decided to open a jewelry case. Something about the way the three cases were arranged in the drawer didn't look right. I opened the first one, expecting to see my wedding pearl choker my ex gave me after the rehearsal dinner, and it was gone. I opened another case looking for a lapis lazuli choker from Chile that he got me during a business trip, and it was gone. Ditto another necklace/earring set, my wedding and engagement rings, sapphire earrings my ex mother in law gave me...I was sick. Called the cops, insurance company, but the only advice they could give me was to check the pawn shops (I never did, I was too devastated). Kids claimed they didn't know anything about it, and I beleive them. I don't know exactly when the stuff, about $20K worth, actually disappeared. There were no signs of break in, and the items were removed from the cases/boxes, so it was obviously not professional jewel thieves but most likely an acquaintance my kids allowed in the house when I was not home , who traded my keepsakes for a few bags of weed. It took months for the sadness and depression over this violation of my trust to really hit me. I'm still in the midst of it. I'm sorry I was so naive. It never occured to me that someone would do this. I should have hidden my valuables. It's a hard lesson but it won't happen to me again. Fortunately, my daughter is in a better place now, but my son doesn't seem to have learned his lesson yet. Last night was a slap in my face, but I've decided that when he visits me in the future he will not be allowed to have guests over, and I will certainly not pay him cash for yardwork and chores. Sigh. I will learn the hard way. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Substance Abuse
just threw my 16-yr-old difficult child & friends out for smoking weed at my house...
Top