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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 125290" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>Well, I would remind him that love doesn't abdicate appropriate behavior. They have nothing to do with one another. We truly love very few people in our lives, and know even less people. Is he suggesting that we get to behave outrageously with anyone we don't know and love? Or is he saying that we get to treat the people we love worse than anyone else in the world because our love negates the necessity to be nice. Either way, he's got it wrong and I'd call him on it.</p><p></p><p>He's 12 and he has a cell phone? I suppose you have already made that decision, but I hope that the use of it is definitively tied to behavior, grades, etc.</p><p></p><p>As for not telling your husband, you might want to head over to the Parent Emeritus forum where a recurrent theme this week is that those of us with older kids are regretting that we didn't keep our husbands in the loop because he never understood, didn't back us up, and he had to do catch-up to how outrageous our kids were when we had finally gotten to the point that we had given up. I'm sure your husband feels guilty, but not telling him won't help, and it doesn't allow him to help you fix the problem. It also gives difficult child free rein to do whatever he wants to you knowing that you will be his protector from his father.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 125290, member: 99"] Well, I would remind him that love doesn't abdicate appropriate behavior. They have nothing to do with one another. We truly love very few people in our lives, and know even less people. Is he suggesting that we get to behave outrageously with anyone we don't know and love? Or is he saying that we get to treat the people we love worse than anyone else in the world because our love negates the necessity to be nice. Either way, he's got it wrong and I'd call him on it. He's 12 and he has a cell phone? I suppose you have already made that decision, but I hope that the use of it is definitively tied to behavior, grades, etc. As for not telling your husband, you might want to head over to the Parent Emeritus forum where a recurrent theme this week is that those of us with older kids are regretting that we didn't keep our husbands in the loop because he never understood, didn't back us up, and he had to do catch-up to how outrageous our kids were when we had finally gotten to the point that we had given up. I'm sure your husband feels guilty, but not telling him won't help, and it doesn't allow him to help you fix the problem. It also gives difficult child free rein to do whatever he wants to you knowing that you will be his protector from his father. [/QUOTE]
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