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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 125311" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Pam, </p><p></p><p>I am so sorry you are enduring difficult child. One suggestion I would make with your consequences is to shorten the length of time he is grounded from friends. It sounds almost contrary = but our kids do better with shorter more frequent punitive states. The urge to scream "YOU ARE GROUNDED FOR EVER AND EVER AMEN" have been overwhelming. The reality of life is I too got angry and had to back up my mouth when I've said "You are grounded for ONE WEEK." </p><p></p><p>In hind site - I have learned that I need to wait when he does something and calm MYSELF down. Then I give a shorter punishment or chore. What has happened is that he can handle 3 days of grounding and is NOT in my face for something to do instead, it's not the end of the world it's 3 days, it's short term so when there is another infraction he knows it's going to be 3 days - unless I choose to make it longer, and he doesn't get into MORE trouble in the mean time because he is bored - which has always turned into 1 more week and one more week and honestly I dont' want him in the house until the 4th of July - but if I do three days? It sends the message and gets him out of my hair. </p><p></p><p>I don't know if this would work for your son, but we tried the 3-4 day groundings instead of week - 2 weeks and it seemed to work better with dude. (nothing works really well, this just was a better deal for all) </p><p></p><p>Hugs</p><p>Star</p><p></p><p>Oh and when he follows you = the next time - get in the car and leave - Start it up and drive away. He's 12 - he can handle being in the house for 10 minutes alone. You get 10 minutes to cool down, listen to the radio and not have a little booger banging on your door or window. </p><p></p><p>The first time I did this to Dude - it freaked him out. I said nothing, got in the car - drove down the road - drove back and when I got home he left me alone. He jokingly said "Why did you leave?" and I said "because I needed to be alone and you wouldn't give me that courtesy." </p><p></p><p>Hugs</p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 125311, member: 4964"] Pam, I am so sorry you are enduring difficult child. One suggestion I would make with your consequences is to shorten the length of time he is grounded from friends. It sounds almost contrary = but our kids do better with shorter more frequent punitive states. The urge to scream "YOU ARE GROUNDED FOR EVER AND EVER AMEN" have been overwhelming. The reality of life is I too got angry and had to back up my mouth when I've said "You are grounded for ONE WEEK." In hind site - I have learned that I need to wait when he does something and calm MYSELF down. Then I give a shorter punishment or chore. What has happened is that he can handle 3 days of grounding and is NOT in my face for something to do instead, it's not the end of the world it's 3 days, it's short term so when there is another infraction he knows it's going to be 3 days - unless I choose to make it longer, and he doesn't get into MORE trouble in the mean time because he is bored - which has always turned into 1 more week and one more week and honestly I dont' want him in the house until the 4th of July - but if I do three days? It sends the message and gets him out of my hair. I don't know if this would work for your son, but we tried the 3-4 day groundings instead of week - 2 weeks and it seemed to work better with dude. (nothing works really well, this just was a better deal for all) Hugs Star Oh and when he follows you = the next time - get in the car and leave - Start it up and drive away. He's 12 - he can handle being in the house for 10 minutes alone. You get 10 minutes to cool down, listen to the radio and not have a little booger banging on your door or window. The first time I did this to Dude - it freaked him out. I said nothing, got in the car - drove down the road - drove back and when I got home he left me alone. He jokingly said "Why did you leave?" and I said "because I needed to be alone and you wouldn't give me that courtesy." Hugs Star [/QUOTE]
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