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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 98680" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>OK, Starbie... you know, I heard all those things (or a variation of them) very softly in my head even as I was trying so hard not to get worked up. I know it's not my problem, but it would be so much easier to detach if they just wouldn't *tell* me about his stupid stuff!!!</p><p></p><p>on the other hand, since he is coming home for Thanksgiving, we at least know we need to make sure Boo's medications and the Tylenol are locked up so *they* don't go up in smoke. </p><p></p><p>But Starbie, you will be proud of me. thank you apparently had the Chicago Police called on him by staff yesterday for "threatening" staff. I know nothing more, I'm not going to ask, I *don't* want to know. Does that count as detachment? </p><p></p><p>Funniest of all, as I laid out new ground rules for him coming home for the holiday (after hearing his many and varied excuses/denials of above behaviors), he actually took it quite well. "Why" you ask? Because I've apparently done a very good job of teaching him to, in his words, "detach". His words: "Mom, I know you're going to do what you think you need to do and there's nothing I can do about it so I'm just going to detach and deal with it."</p><p></p><p>Susie and Lisa, no, I don't think his stunts have anything to do with wanting to stay where he is. He knows that any thought of or planning for a return home is on hold indefinitely. The deal was a minimum of 6 consecutive months of decent semi-human behavior. We haven't gotten more than a couple of weeks, and pretty much none recently. My suspicion is that it's having the most freedom ever, combined with living with- 15 other difficult children (all of whom are older), with a not-so-healthy dose of too much free time/boredom thrown in for good measure. </p><p></p><p>And onward we go, right?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 98680, member: 8"] OK, Starbie... you know, I heard all those things (or a variation of them) very softly in my head even as I was trying so hard not to get worked up. I know it's not my problem, but it would be so much easier to detach if they just wouldn't *tell* me about his stupid stuff!!! on the other hand, since he is coming home for Thanksgiving, we at least know we need to make sure Boo's medications and the Tylenol are locked up so *they* don't go up in smoke. But Starbie, you will be proud of me. thank you apparently had the Chicago Police called on him by staff yesterday for "threatening" staff. I know nothing more, I'm not going to ask, I *don't* want to know. Does that count as detachment? Funniest of all, as I laid out new ground rules for him coming home for the holiday (after hearing his many and varied excuses/denials of above behaviors), he actually took it quite well. "Why" you ask? Because I've apparently done a very good job of teaching him to, in his words, "detach". His words: "Mom, I know you're going to do what you think you need to do and there's nothing I can do about it so I'm just going to detach and deal with it." Susie and Lisa, no, I don't think his stunts have anything to do with wanting to stay where he is. He knows that any thought of or planning for a return home is on hold indefinitely. The deal was a minimum of 6 consecutive months of decent semi-human behavior. We haven't gotten more than a couple of weeks, and pretty much none recently. My suspicion is that it's having the most freedom ever, combined with living with- 15 other difficult children (all of whom are older), with a not-so-healthy dose of too much free time/boredom thrown in for good measure. And onward we go, right? [/QUOTE]
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