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<blockquote data-quote="Sunlight" data-source="post: 9437" data-attributes="member: 97"><p>it depends on what you mean positive results from a treatment facility. my goal with ant at age 16 in glen mills was to contain ant and have him get his high school diploma. I was not letting him out til that happened. my goal once he turned 18 was to remove myself as much as possible from him and have him be an adult. if he made choices apart from his best interests, I could not go down that road with him. I want him to be able to live as if I were dead one day. one day he will have to.</p><p></p><p>jail did not help ant. it wasted time. there are no programs and they get more depressed more anxious...more bitter. </p><p></p><p>what helped ant the most was a mix that fell together:</p><p>-I had told him no help from me at all if he did not comply.</p><p>-he ran out of options and people to enable him.</p><p>-my boyfriend is a good male example and spends 8-10 hrs a day one on one with ant, five days a week. ant is on his own on weekends and must totally fend for himself and make decisions with no one there to guide.</p><p>-ant cares about his son and wants to be here for him.</p><p>-the biggest factor was God and his input into ant's life. </p><p></p><p>it has only been 4 months. but I have to say it is the best four months ant has had for a very long time.</p><p></p><p>you cannot help them if they do not see a problem. if ant repeats his past behavior, I will once more let him out on his own -homeless or not. he has to comply to be with me. he seems to want that. the pain of his past and watching others who are still trapped in that life haunts him at times. </p><p></p><p>at some point we realize it is their life. our job is to help them achieve independence.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Sunlight, post: 9437, member: 97"] it depends on what you mean positive results from a treatment facility. my goal with ant at age 16 in glen mills was to contain ant and have him get his high school diploma. I was not letting him out til that happened. my goal once he turned 18 was to remove myself as much as possible from him and have him be an adult. if he made choices apart from his best interests, I could not go down that road with him. I want him to be able to live as if I were dead one day. one day he will have to. jail did not help ant. it wasted time. there are no programs and they get more depressed more anxious...more bitter. what helped ant the most was a mix that fell together: -I had told him no help from me at all if he did not comply. -he ran out of options and people to enable him. -my boyfriend is a good male example and spends 8-10 hrs a day one on one with ant, five days a week. ant is on his own on weekends and must totally fend for himself and make decisions with no one there to guide. -ant cares about his son and wants to be here for him. -the biggest factor was God and his input into ant's life. it has only been 4 months. but I have to say it is the best four months ant has had for a very long time. you cannot help them if they do not see a problem. if ant repeats his past behavior, I will once more let him out on his own -homeless or not. he has to comply to be with me. he seems to want that. the pain of his past and watching others who are still trapped in that life haunts him at times. at some point we realize it is their life. our job is to help them achieve independence. [/QUOTE]
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